Archive For The “Your Sex Life” Category

9 Good Habits to Increase Your Sex Drive – Boost Your Libido

How to increase your sex drive by implementing new habits?

You love your partner but you feel you need to increase your sex drive as the way you feel lately is not sexy at all. Am I right? 

Well, don’t blame yourself for it – your libido doesn’t work on voice command. Just because you lack desire for sex it doesn’t mean something’s wrong with you. 

Your libido depends on many things like stress, hormones, lifestyle, confidence, health habits, and simply ignoring yourself and your needs. But more about that later.

Related post: SECRETS TO FEEL SEXY EVEN WHEN YOU DON’T FEEL SEXY

Whatever the reason, you know better than anyone how your normal sex drive feels like. 

So, if something doesn’t match lately, there’s a reason behind it, and you will want to find it.

When looking for ways to increase your sex drive, focus first on your habits. We know, life is a chain of everyday actions, which depend on our habits. The way we feel is often just a habit.

Implementing good habits will increase your sex drive no matter how low it is. There is no exception. 

Let’s build some nice habits to boost your libido!

Loading...

It’s all in the head

We, women, know… I think we said it many times and even men know it by now – it’s all in the head. You can be with the love of your life; everything is so perfect that you wonder if you’re awake or you’re dreaming. But when it comes to sex, you’re just not there. Your thoughts are going from one topic to another, and you don’t feel in a mood for something like that. Sounds familiar? Here’s what you can do about it:

Meditation

Th best thing about meditation is not that it sounds trendy and exotic at the same time. The best thing is that it teaches you how to be present. Because, when you are in bed with your partner and really want to focus on the task, your mind can listen to you or you will hear every little stupidity it tells you. 

Well, meditation will do the dirty job for you. Focusing on the present moment has never been so hard as it is these days. At the same time, we’ve never been so blessed with knowledge as we are nowadays. That is what meditation will help you with. The present is the only place and time that exists, and meditation will help your mind stay in bed, with you while trying to enjoy yourselves.

Loading...

The first habit – meditate!

Stress

I will not take too much time to preach about stress. Everyone knows that stress kills the sex drive, along with every other good emotion in our body and mind. Find ways to distract yourself with something positive at least an hour before going to bed. Read a book, write in a diary, laugh with your SO, do something good for someone.

The second habit – Stop Stressing

Related post: THE HABIT TO BE STRESSED AND HOW IT AFFECTS OUR SEX LIFE

Talking about books…

increase-your-sex-drive-boost-libido-2One of the best ways to increase your sex drive right away is to read more books. But not just any book. Choose chick lit, an erotic novella, something spicy, hot and a little bit ridiculous. Whatever your opinion of this genre, you’ll find something to keep you focused. 

The passion, the absurd of the characters’ emotions, the sweaty hot and pink language will give you some inspiration, trust me! 

The Third habit – Read chick lit

Have a little chat 

I know that both of you work, and if you have kids, it’s even busier.

However, sex and making love is an intimacy that starts long before you go into the bed.

Keeping the fire burning between the two of you is essential for fulfilling intimacy. Share your feelings, go back in your memories to some nice plays, open the photos on your phone, go through the crazy videos you have together. 

One day, my partner was feeling a bit down. There was no reason – just a cold, rainy day when nothing looks right or bright. After we finished our telephone conversation, I went through my phone and found a video from one of our holidays on the seaside. The video was showing few minutes of a sunrise – it was a colourful combination of red sun, warm morning wind, the salty sound of the waves, our sleepy faces… it was the first time we welcomed the sunrise on the beach together, and it was one of my dreams coming true. So, I sent him the video. I knew I warmed his heart and took his mind to a better place, showing that there’s tomorrow as well. We had our warm mornings in the past, and we will have them in the future too.  

Show love, talk, share emotions and care. Your sex drive automatically will increase its levels.

The Forth habit – talk, share and care more

Pin the post for later:

habits-increase-sex-drive-boost-libido-2

Visit the park or the gym…

Exercising is one of the best ways to increase your sex drive. When jogging, lifting weights, walking or do any other physical activity, your body “wakes up” for action. Your adrenaline levels go high, and your blood starts “boiling”. All that will prepare you for the next exercise – testing your libido.

The Fifth habit – Exercise more

Sexercise

Your intimate muscles are still muscles; you know that. Moreover, an orgasm is an actual contraction of your muscles in the intimate area of your body. Therefore, these muscles will be more trained to contract at the right time, if you train them well. Kegel’s exercises are the best way to do it. There’re even weights specially designed for that if you need help to start. 

Have more sex

Sex is like the food, they say – the more you do it, the more you want to do it. I guess we can agree that having orgasms could be a bit addictive, can’t we? It’s all about the pleasure, the intimacy, the feel of wholeness.

But it is true that having sex is a habit as well, just like getting hungry every day in the same hours. Therefore, increasing the amount of sex we have on a weekly basis could actually increase your sex drive. Boost the sex – boost the sex drive.

The sixth habit – Have more sex

Use your imagination

Very often, the reason to miss out on sex drive is: there’s nothing new about it that will happen. As I said at the beginning – it’s all in the head. Plan a Naughty Thursday every week and do something different, experiment with your bodies. Plan a dirty weekend away, explore your limits, get inspirations from erotic movies.  Push your imagination to work in that direction, give it a focus, and it will bloom.

The Seventh habit – Be creative

Suggested post: ROMANTIC WEEKEND IDEAS – THE PERFECT DIRTY WEEKEND AWAY GUIDE

You are what you eat

Like, literally! Whatever you put on your plate will become your blood, skin, bones, muscles… well, you! 

That is why is so important to be aware what you eat. Junk food will not give you the energy to desire more sex at 10 pm tonight. A healthy diet though will increase your sex drive and your energy. Remember stress and tiredness? You can get rid of them, simply by changing your diet. Moreover, if you already eat healthily, include more of those foods in your meals. They are on the top of the “boost your libido” food scale.

The Eight habit – Eat healthily

Suggested post: FOODS FOR BETTER SEX

Medical issues

Sometimes, the reason you just can’t make yourself feel in a sexy mood is medical. Health reflects on absolutely every single aspect of your physical and emotional life. 

Anaemia

During your period, you lose iron. That is the reason many women feel tired all the time, they’re pale, experience lack of energy and can’t wait to sleep for at least 10 hours.

You can easily check that by doing a simple blood test. Meanwhile, you can add more food rich ironing your blood, as well as getting food supplements to help you fight anaemia. Iron-rich foods are spinach, fish, eggs, beans, nuts, dried fruits, watercress, curly kale.

Your Pill

The primary job of you Pill is to decrease the levels of testosterone, hence – no chance to conceive. However, the testosterone is the main hormone that causes high sex drive… or any sex drive.  By decreasing the levels of restored, you automatically put pressure on your libido. 

Consider consultation with your doctor regarding change of the Pill or change the contraception method to see if your libido will be affected by it.

Hormones

It is not only the testosterone that affects your desire for sex. Any hormonal misbalance will change it. For example, the progesterone. Low levels of it can cause mood swings, fertility problems, weight gain, lack or low sex drive, crazy PMS and more. If you feel like you live a normal, healthy life, you’re not in a stressful period of your life, but you just feel unhappy and unable to enjoy sex, consider hormonal disbalance check. It might be the reason you’re losing so much joy in life.

The Ninth habit – Consult with the GP

I hope you liked my healthy habits to increase your sex drive, but more importantly – they helped you find the right direction to better love life. If that happened, please subscribe to our blog so that you can enjoy the useful content. Stay happy!

Loading...

SECRETS TO FEEL SEXY EVEN IF YOU DON’T FEEL SEXY

How to feel and look sexy

To be sexy and to feel sexy is the word that brings images of sweaty beach models in luxury lingerie, biting lips or fingers… something you think you will never be. And you are right!

Because…

To feel and look sexy is so far away from perfect body and underwear that costs half of your mortgage.

In fact, it has nothing to do with the size of your bra or the high of your heels. It all starts with how you feel. I’m sure, you have heard it so many times that you may wish to slap me in the face because I just repeat a cliché nobody likes.

Check: WHAT DO GUYS FIND IS HOT IN THEIR GIRLS

In that case, it is good I am not around. So give me a chance to save myself and to change your vision on the matter. I would like to list few things down below that will boost the feel-sexy-even-gorgeous-today mood that usually slips away from you. Share with me if I’m right or wrong, or if you have got something more to add.

Take a shower

Warm water running over your body is the first step to feeling sexy. Why? It increases the blood flow to your body (especially if you chose it to be cooler) and it gives you the opportunity to “wash away” the bad self-thoughts and feelings. On top of that, you can add your shower gel with favourite fragrance, body scrub and maybe some hair removal (if needed). Going out of the shower, after all, is a great way to start your day, and more than a promising beginning of the “sexy you” we claim to reach. Feeling sexy is starting your sexy.

Put something crazy on

Pink scarf. Spider ring. Green glasses. Huge necklace. Put on something that’s unusual, takes you out of your comfort zone and brings the craziness out.

People are slaves of habits. That often includes the routes we take on the way home, the shops we go to, and the clothes we wear. Even the most cherished piece of clothing becomes unnoticeable for the eye when we wear it all the time. The worst thing ever? There’s more than 80%to reach for the same piece next time you wonder what to wear. That’s the habit!

Break it! To feel sexy is to feel different, challenged by yourself in every aspect, braking your imaginary rules and habits.

Loading...

Crazy hat in the cold winter? Multi colourful bracelets at summer time? A top that reflects your personality? Bring them on, babe!

Your lingerie

Yes, I said something about the lingerie at the beginning but having few pieces of underwear that just scream sexy, is essential. No matter if you are with a partner or not, if you plan something hot for the night or not… Sexy lingerie is for you, your knowledge of what you wear will add frisky note your eyes and smile. Feeling sexy is wearing sexy.

Check: 30 AND ALONE? READ THIS!

Be-spa

Can you imagine yourself in the bathtub, the foam is all around you, the scent of lavender and magnolia around you tickles your nose. Few candles sparkle in your eyes and the only thing that makes noise is your Zen-breathing. Give yourself a second to try to imagine it. It would feel beautiful, peaceful.

Bring that feeling within yourself every time you need to add some sexiness to your day. The way you feel defines the way you look. And the way you think determines the way you feel. Following that logic, the fascinating, mind-blowing vision of your perfect spa should make you smile.

Something extra – it will make you crave for the experience so at evening time the only thing you’ll prepare after dinner is your favourite bath bomb. The circle is closed – you were dreaming of the experience, and now you have it. Now that’s a pleasurable way to feel and look sexy.

Check: HOW TO FIND COUPLE TIME WITH THE KIDS AROUND

Dance

I bet you didn’t expect that one. Actually, the blood flow, the move of your body, the rhythm of the music, the beats… everything works in your favour.  Moving your body helps you to feel it, to touch it, to enjoy it. Dancing is sexy, and it does make you feel sexy.

Straighten your back

Your posture could lift you confidence or could bring it down. It is your choice. So try it now, while you’re reading this – just to see if I’m right:

Straighten your back, push the shoulders a little bit down and back, keep the head high and your eyes forward.

Your tummy became smaller, and your ladies were shaped better, did you notice that? Tell me that’s not sexy.

The right posture feels good, and we often forget how essential for the health it is. Keep in mind the feeling you just had – don’t you want to have it every single minute of your day?

Fake it till you make it

Not my favourite one but it does work. The benefits of fake till you bake it are more than obvious. Pretending you feel sexy and making an effort to look sexy will work from outside with the hope to bring inside as well. The good part? I actually work. Doing your hair today will be noticed by your partner, colleagues or friends. They will compliment you, and that will trigger the feel-sexy mood instantly.

But if you’re a little bit like me and prefer to feel it first before any attempt to fake it, here’s something for you:

Check: 7 ROMANTIC IDEAS TO INITIATE SEX

Put lipstick on

Back on track with looking sexy.

“Give a woman the right lipstick, and she can conquer the world.” is one of my favourite quotes. It screams confidence, girl-power, fashion, sexy mood and victory all together.

There’s some magic in a woman with the right bright lipstick, isn’t there? Don’t forget to add it to your daily routine and enjoy the effect.

Check: TOP 5 OF THE THINGS MEN WANT IN SEX

Change the perfume

Wearing the same perfume every day doesn’t have the same wow-affect on your mood every day. And as well with the clothes, very often we use the same fragrance all over again and again. I understand why many women stick with one aroma fragrance for years – I do it too. But now and then it’s nice and healthy to change it. Feeling the sweet, gentle smell on your clothes during the day helps your feminine personality to wake up.

Candles

It’s exactly the same with the rest of the aromatherapy you enjoy at home. And if you have not tried it till now – do it. Pick different fragrances and designs that please your eyes. Light them up and wait for the gentle smell to cover the air around you. Lifts the mood and inspires. The happy and inspired woman is sexy!

Let me know if you liked those nine ways to feel and look sexy even when you do not. Share with friends and don’t forget that the sexiness is always in you. Let’s wake it up.

This post may contain affiliate links, which means we may receive a commission if you click a link and purchase something that we have recommended. Clicking the links won’t cost you anything.

Check: FLUSH HIM OUT OF YOUR LIFE!

Loading...

SOLO SEX – OH YES, PLEASE!

We have to admit it – almost every woman masturbates.

If you don’t – you have to try it ASAP. You’ll love it. But while you’re on the self-pleasuring wave you don’t usually think why you do it, right?

Stress-relief 

The orgasm will produce endorphins which help to fight the stress and makes you feel much better. It relaxes the mussels and sends messages of pleasure and happiness to each part of your body.

Helps you getting to know yourself

solo-sex_ideas-your_sex_lifeMasturbating and touching yourself will give you the chance to find out what makes you feel good and what doesn’t. Finding your trigger points is important for your sex life as it’s going to make you feel more confident in a way to reach orgasm with your partner.

Makes you feel sexy

Oh, yes! Being sexy makes you feel sexy, isn’t it? It’s almost like with the food – more you eat more you want to eat. Feeling that you’re able to give yourself, sexual pleasure builds up the self-esteem and confidence. Also, it’s healthy as it makes your heart beat raising and prevents you from heart attacks.

Helps you to sleep better

Do you have problems with the sleep? Probably because your head is full of the things that happened through the day. Or because you feel too stressed, tensioned and far away from relaxed.

solo_sex-your_sex_lifeMasturbating will do wonders for you. It’s going to take your thoughts away from the daily problems and focus them back on you. The orgasm will be like a pleasurable restart of your body system, and after that, you will feel calm and relaxed enough to fall asleep fast.

Helps your relationship 

As I said above, knowing what turns you on and off is significant not only for you but your partner as well. Intimacy and sex are an important part of every relationship, and the capability of giving and receiving pleasure from your partner may build up or destroy the relationship.

 Just because you’re in a relationship, it doesn’t mean you’re not allowed to masturbate. And if you do masturbate it doesn’t mean you don’t love your partner or the sex with him is not enough to make you feel satisfied. It just means you have one more way to get to the big O. And you can always ask your partner, to join, the chance to say No is minimal.

ONE NIGHT HOOK UP “HOW TO”

Well, you’ve got an idea how to do it, it is not such a secret what goes on between the sheet. One night hook up is something that almost every man has done. Many women as well either had it or want to try it. What are the main rules of having sex for one night so you can fully enjoy it?

Be honest

It doesn’t matter what kind of relationship we have with the others. The honesty is there every time. In one-night-stand honesty is telling the other that this is actually a one-night hookup. I agree that some people don’t want to be honest about it because they may lose the opportunity to get laid. But telling what your real intentions are is a matter of self-confidence and …well,  it’s fair.

How about FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS “HOW TO”

Respect

No to the flowers, the romantic stars in the eyes or the sweet talks. But totally yes to the respect and attention to the other’s needs. We are still people, and even if we never see the other again, we should respect him/her. That will make it a beautiful memory or at least won’t give us reasons to regret something.

Expectations

 

one_night_hook_up-your_sex_lifeYou’ve seen not one or two films with one-night-stand. And the romantic, the pink air and the wedding bells at the end of the film are already in your head? You better take them out of there and bin them as fast as possible. Lower your expectations, or you will have regrets. When you’re with someone in the bed the first time is a little bit awkward, a little bit confusing and not so smashing. Well, almost always. But don’t think that you will be the exception. There are going to be some weird moments but be positive, and unless is some epic disaster (if it was – please, share with us), you should consider it as a mission completed.

Leave ASAP

Loading...

When the job is done – just leave. That is a one-night hookup, but nobody actually wants you to stay for the all night. You will feel much better going to sleep in your bed at the end. If you’re already in your place, you can put this at the being honest part. If somehow the other person stays in your house till the morning – inform him that you will go out soon and need time to prepare.

Tell someone

Loading...

Don’t forget about the security part of all situation. Never leave with a complete stranger without telling someone where you’re going. If during the flirt in the bar or the club (or wherever you met) you get the feeling that something is wrong just don’t go anywhere. Ask for a second date. That will give you time to think about it and to realise how safe the situation could be.

Protect yourself

If you don’t know about that part – let me be the first to tell you. Using protection when having sex with a stranger is THE must-do of one-night-stand. You never know the health or hygiene level of the other so do not take the risk of your health. You will thank yourself later for that.

FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS – IS IT POSSIBLE?

“No strings attached” or “Friends with benefits” rules

“It’s new! It’s interesting! It’s modern! Let’s try it!” Those are the thoughts of most of the people that get into the “friends with benefits” relationship. Many people even watch the famous movie for instructions how and what should they do. Smart? I don’t think so!

But what are the rules of that kind of relationship and how to protect ourselves from getting in a position where we feel lied not by the other but ourselves?

The real gain of “no strings attached” sex with someone is not only the actual intimacy but the fact that you have all of your time for yourself. You can do the things you love – going out with friends, attending yoga classes, going to the cinema and sleeping alone in your big, fluffy bed, and at the same time to get sex when you need it.

How about ONE NIGHT HOOK UP “HOW TO”?

Not so much amazing part is if things go wrong with one of you and feelings start knocking on the door. Therefore…

friends_with_benefits-your_sex_life..think twice before starting that sort of relationship. Are you the type of person that is capable just to have sex and to leave the place after that? Do you know yourself well enough to follow the rules of “no feelings” and “you can date others as well”? Falling for the other is the most common mistake in Friends with benefits relationship. We think that we’re aware what we’re doing. In the next moment, we realise that we want something more. Well, this is not fair, because… well, rules are rules.

Choose wisely!

You may be completely alright with everything around those type of “not a commitment” but at some point to get a card “be my Valentine”. And this could be disturbing. So the person you choose to be with should be completely aware of the situation. Before you start the relationship talk as many times, you feel you have to talk with the other and do not leave open doors for anything after that.

Where to look for him/her?

The best place to look for “a sex-buddy” is outside your work and friend area. At some point, everything will finish. It is not going to last forever. And there is no way for you to predict how it’s going to end. Even if you have lots of experience in this type of relationships, you can never be sure about the other. It is much safer to pick someone that doesn’t show up every single day in your life, risking to mess the things up.

Stick to the friends-with-benefits’ rules.

Make the call or send the text message when you feel the need, have as much fun as you want and then either leave the other’s house or if you’re in your place say goodbye and proceed with your life. No meetings outside, no movies or drinks in the bar. Even too much personal information is not recommended. If you tell your problems to the other, he or she may feel the need to help you with them and things can get in a different direction.

 

Be sure the other treat you tight and offer the same.

friends_with_benefits-how_toLike any other type of relationship the base of “friends with benefits” is respect, kindness and honesty. Do not allow and do not attempt ignorance, rudeness and disrespect in any form. Keep it simple but communicate with each other. Use protection and take and give as much pleasure as you can.

Don’t get offended if you make the text or the call for sex but the other refuses it. You can ask for the reason. But only to inform yourself if “friends with benefits” relationship is still happening. If everything is ok there, you shouldn’t insist on the reason why it’s not happening immediately. The other doesn’t owe you anything, and you have the same rights.

Loading...
Loading...

Be free to look for your happiness all the time during that relationship. Meet new people, go out on dates and feel free to live your life how you want. You don’t have to explain yourself and shouldn’t stop the other from the same things. If there are some restrictions, they should stay in the bed area.

 End it when you feel it’s enough.

Keep in mind that staying too long in that relationship will lead to you getting used to the present with each other. The fun of friends with benefits lasts just a few months. If you’re both experienced in that and don’t mind to keep it like that, everything should be alright. Otherwise, you have to know when is time to leave that person behind you before someone gets hurt.

Don’t look back. When it ends, it should stay in the past. Texting or calling “just to see if everything’s alright” is not recommended as it may disturb the other. You should accept the end of it with joy that it happened and proceed with your life with a smile.

STRESS AND INTIMACY – SO CONNECTED

Are you too stressed to have sex? Well, did you know that when you’re stressed the best cure is to have sex?

Ok, one by one…

We can’t avoid it. It’s like a small mouse that keeps running around, looking for the holes in our mind to start eating our time, health and happiness. So when it comes to sex and intimacy, there is nothing more discouraging than stress. We don’t feel sexy, we don’t have the mood for it, and we can’t be bothered about it at all.

But what is stress?

We live in a world where the word “stress” is more stressful than everything else. It keeps showing here and there, and once you’re in the trap, the way out gets harder and harder. It’s that tension and pressure we feel whenever something is not going well, and your body starts to respond to the things around us in an unpleasant way.

stress-intimacy-your_sex_lifeWork, traffic, kids, money, bills, weather… so many opportunities to be stressed every day. So when we finally make our way to the bed, the last thing we can imagine is having sex. It’s not because we don’t love our partner, it’s not because we’re getting old or something else. It’s simply because we feel stressed and that lowers the levels of our sex drive.

And intimacy is not only sex, and it’s more important than you can imagine.

Instead of explaining how stress affects intimacy, I would like to tell you how intimacy affects stress. Are you ready? It reduces it!

Wow-effect, isn’t it? Being intimate with your partner will help you reduce the tension. The orgasm will release endorphins which are known as the hormone of happiness. And happiness is all we need. It will help you to have a different look at the things around. It will make you smile and less depressed about problems you can’t solve.

Avoiding sex will bring loneliness in your life.

Even if you’re in a relationship and you love your partner, not having the intimacy with him or she will make you feel lonely. Nobody likes that. With the time it will make you unhappy, and you will close yourself to the other person. And all started because you were too stressed.

But how to do it if you’re not in the mood for it?

your_sex_life-intimacy_and_stressNobody asks you to force yourself to have sex with your partner. If you don’t want it – don’t do it! But intimacy is not only sex. Sex is just a part of it, and I can say it’s just a small percent of it.

A long hug and kiss is a good start of few minutes cuddling with your loved one. It will help you feel close to each other and will make you smile. I guarantee you that. Watching a film together, holding your hands when you walk outside, waking up the other with a kiss… These are just a few of many acts that will help you feel intimate with the other. It will show that even if you’re stressed and not in a mood, you still love him or her.

Loading...

One of the reasons to feel stressed – lack of communication

Feeling that we have the world on our shoulders is one more reason to feel stressed. Having a long conversation with your partner, sharing your thoughts and worries will help you not only to solve some of the problems. It will make you two more connected and united. Feeling the support of your loved one is an aphrodisiac as well. So who knows what good things can a  problem brings to the bedroom, right?

 

Go Top

%d bloggers like this: