How to increase your sex drive by implementing new habits?
You love your partner but you feel you need to increase your sex drive as the way you feel lately is not sexy at all. Am I right?
Well, don’t blame yourself for it – your libido doesn’t work on voice command. Just because you lack desire for sex it doesn’t mean something’s wrong with you.
Your libido depends on many things like stress, hormones, lifestyle, confidence, health habits, and simply ignoring yourself and your needs. But more about that later.
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Whatever the reason, you know better than anyone how your normal sex drive feels like.
So, if something doesn’t match lately, there’s a reason behind it, and you will want to find it.
When looking for ways to increase your sex drive, focus first on your habits. We know, life is a chain of everyday actions, which depend on our habits. The way we feel is often just a habit.
Implementing good habits will increase your sex drive no matter how low it is. There is no exception.
Let’s build some nice habits to boost your libido!
It’s all in the head
We, women, know… I think we said it many times and even men know it by now – it’s all in the head. You can be with the love of your life; everything is so perfect that you wonder if you’re awake or you’re dreaming. But when it comes to sex, you’re just not there. Your thoughts are going from one topic to another, and you don’t feel in a mood for something like that. Sounds familiar? Here’s what you can do about it:
Th best thing about meditation is not that it sounds trendy and exotic at the same time. The best thing is that it teaches you how to be present. Because, when you are in bed with your partner and really want to focus on the task, your mind can listen to you or you will hear every little stupidity it tells you.
Well, meditation will do the dirty job for you. Focusing on the present moment has never been so hard as it is these days. At the same time, we’ve never been so blessed with knowledge as we are nowadays. That is what meditation will help you with. The present is the only place and time that exists, and meditation will help your mind stay in bed, with you while trying to enjoy yourselves.
The first habit – meditate!
I will not take too much time to preach about stress. Everyone knows that stress kills the sex drive, along with every other good emotion in our body and mind. Find ways to distract yourself with something positive at least an hour before going to bed. Read a book, write in a diary, laugh with your SO, do something good for someone.
The second habit – Stop Stressing
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Talking about books…
One of the best ways to increase your sex drive right away is to read more books. But not just any book. Choose chick lit, an erotic novella, something spicy, hot and a little bit ridiculous. Whatever your opinion of this genre, you’ll find something to keep you focused.
The passion, the absurd of the characters’ emotions, the sweaty hot and pink language will give you some inspiration, trust me!
The Third habit – Read chick lit
Have a little chat
I know that both of you work, and if you have kids, it’s even busier.
However, sex and making love is an intimacy that starts long before you go into the bed.
Keeping the fire burning between the two of you is essential for fulfilling intimacy. Share your feelings, go back in your memories to some nice plays, open the photos on your phone, go through the crazy videos you have together.
One day, my partner was feeling a bit down. There was no reason – just a cold, rainy day when nothing looks right or bright. After we finished our telephone conversation, I went through my phone and found a video from one of our holidays on the seaside. The video was showing few minutes of a sunrise – it was a colourful combination of red sun, warm morning wind, the salty sound of the waves, our sleepy faces… it was the first time we welcomed the sunrise on the beach together, and it was one of my dreams coming true. So, I sent him the video. I knew I warmed his heart and took his mind to a better place, showing that there’s tomorrow as well. We had our warm mornings in the past, and we will have them in the future too.
Show love, talk, share emotions and care. Your sex drive automatically will increase its levels.
The Forth habit – talk, share and care more
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Visit the park or the gym…
Exercising is one of the best ways to increase your sex drive. When jogging, lifting weights, walking or do any other physical activity, your body “wakes up” for action. Your adrenaline levels go high, and your blood starts “boiling”. All that will prepare you for the next exercise – testing your libido.
The Fifth habit – Exercise more
Your intimate muscles are still muscles; you know that. Moreover, an orgasm is an actual contraction of your muscles in the intimate area of your body. Therefore, these muscles will be more trained to contract at the right time, if you train them well. Kegel’s exercises are the best way to do it. There’re even weights specially designed for that if you need help to start.
Have more sex
Sex is like the food, they say – the more you do it, the more you want to do it. I guess we can agree that having orgasms could be a bit addictive, can’t we? It’s all about the pleasure, the intimacy, the feel of wholeness.
But it is true that having sex is a habit as well, just like getting hungry every day in the same hours. Therefore, increasing the amount of sex we have on a weekly basis could actually increase your sex drive. Boost the sex – boost the sex drive.
The sixth habit – Have more sex
Use your imagination
Very often, the reason to miss out on sex drive is: there’s nothing new about it that will happen. As I said at the beginning – it’s all in the head. Plan a Naughty Thursday every week and do something different, experiment with your bodies. Plan a dirty weekend away, explore your limits, get inspirations from erotic movies. Push your imagination to work in that direction, give it a focus, and it will bloom.
The Seventh habit – Be creative
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You are what you eat
Like, literally! Whatever you put on your plate will become your blood, skin, bones, muscles… well, you!
That is why is so important to be aware what you eat. Junk food will not give you the energy to desire more sex at 10 pm tonight. A healthy diet though will increase your sex drive and your energy. Remember stress and tiredness? You can get rid of them, simply by changing your diet. Moreover, if you already eat healthily, include more of those foods in your meals. They are on the top of the “boost your libido” food scale.
The Eight habit – Eat healthily
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Sometimes, the reason you just can’t make yourself feel in a sexy mood is medical. Health reflects on absolutely every single aspect of your physical and emotional life.
During your period, you lose iron. That is the reason many women feel tired all the time, they’re pale, experience lack of energy and can’t wait to sleep for at least 10 hours.
You can easily check that by doing a simple blood test. Meanwhile, you can add more food rich ironing your blood, as well as getting food supplements to help you fight anaemia. Iron-rich foods are spinach, fish, eggs, beans, nuts, dried fruits, watercress, curly kale.
The primary job of you Pill is to decrease the levels of testosterone, hence – no chance to conceive. However, the testosterone is the main hormone that causes high sex drive… or any sex drive. By decreasing the levels of restored, you automatically put pressure on your libido.
Consider consultation with your doctor regarding change of the Pill or change the contraception method to see if your libido will be affected by it.
It is not only the testosterone that affects your desire for sex. Any hormonal misbalance will change it. For example, the progesterone. Low levels of it can cause mood swings, fertility problems, weight gain, lack or low sex drive, crazy PMS and more. If you feel like you live a normal, healthy life, you’re not in a stressful period of your life, but you just feel unhappy and unable to enjoy sex, consider hormonal disbalance check. It might be the reason you’re losing so much joy in life.
The Ninth habit – Consult with the GP
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