Does your family’s happiness depend on how often you have sex?
How often do you have sex? Does your happiness depend on the frequency you and your partner satisfy each other in the bed? Does your salary define your sex life? Let me try to answer these and some more questions.
It is common to connect our happiness with how often we have sex with our partner. However “often” for some people may be three times a week, while for someone else it could be every other day.
So could we tell that as often we have sex as happier we will feel?
There are many studies regarding sexual behaviour and its effects on the personality. One of them – done from Society for Personality and Social Psychology, was made with the help of more than 30 000 Americans and lasted for 40 years. It tells us that:
The couples that reported they’re in the happiest time of their life have sex once a week!
Clearly, jumping into the bed once a week with the intention to enjoy your spouse will not solve your other problems. But it will reduce the stress levels. Moreover, the intimate connection will remind you the love you share. At the same time experiencing an orgasm will release endorphins and boost your happiness level.
Our sex drive and how everything around us defines it
Our sex drive varies during the years and at the same time changes if we’re stressed, ill or just tired. And while the stress and the tiredness may not have anything to do with our partner, the intimate relationship is the first to feel the effects.
However, you cannot force intimacy when you don’t feel the need of sexual experience. But what if you actually want to have sex more often, but you’re constantly bombarded with other things such as work, stress, children, in-laws and the age?
Well, schedule it!
Could we schedule our sexual activities and plan how often to have sex?
As weird as it sounds, scheduling the sex with your partner could help you in developing a routine regarding your intimate life.
Putting “Sex” on your To-Do list will make magic to you. Especially if you like to follow the small points in your journal.
It will give you the security that Yes, you have time for it. Moreover, when you know, there’s another episode of your favourite series, scheduling sex right after it will give it an extra hint when you see the end of the show.
So I have to have sex once a week, and that will make me happy?!
The studies say that the couples that reported they feel happy together usually have sex once a week. That’s an average number. At the time they don’t claim that the fact they make love once a week with their partner is the reason to be happy.
So no, if you skip a week or two this month and feel naughty 12 times next month, it won’t boost or ruin your happiness.
So what are you trying to say with all these random facts?
How often you have sex will not solve your relationship problems nor boost your personal happiness.
You shouldn’t wonder if having sex three times per month means your relationship dies.
The frequency of the intimate fun activities you and your partner have is more than perfect as long as you’re both satisfies with it.
No research could or will tell you – yes, personally you, what is normal or should you do or not do something about your sex life.
If you feel doubts about your significant one’s satisfaction choose an appropriate time and have a conversation about it. The same technique applies if your sex life doesn’t match your needs.
In conclusion, don’t be depressed by statistics as they show what’s average. Everything around “average” is what makes average exist.
So, “How often do you have sex?” should change to:
Does how often you have sex makes you happy?