How to Woo a Woman on Your First Date: 18 Ways

4. HOW TO WOO A WOMAN BY SIMPLY BEING THE GENTLEMAN SHE THOUGHT SHE’LL NEVER MEET

how to impress a womanI hope I don’t have to remind you of how important it is to be a gentleman. And it is not only first date advice but a life tip. Open doors; offer a hand if it’s winter and it’s slippery; wait for her to finish her sentences; pick her up with the car, and everything else that shows respect and kindness. It’s the little things that will impress her more than the big ones.

5. SHE KNOWS YOU WANT HER IN YOUR BED, BUT NEVER DEMONSTRATE IT OR HINT TO IT ON THE FIRST DATE

How to woo a woman? Be respectful.

During the date don’t act like someone who wants to have her “right here and right now”. Laugh, make some appropriate jokes, try to relax and that will relax her as well. You cannot have a relationship with someone if you’re not friends with them first.

This will impress and woo her way much more than any “move” every other guy would make.

6. GO TO A PLACE YOU KNOW AND TRUST

Usually, the place you go will be your responsibility.

That does not apply every time, but if it is in your case – chose a place you’ve visited before.

Make sure you know the food is delicious if it’s a restaurant, and they treat their customers well.

However, you don’t want her to feel uncomfortable so stay away from places where everybody knows you, and half of your friends almost live there.

7. “YOU LOOK NICE” IS WRONG TO SAY

Urgh, women! You could never please them, right? 🙂

Of course, you should tell her she looks nice… but not in this way.

The following tip will woo every woman…

If you like her hair – compliment her hair only.

If you like her coat, rings, bracelet, watch or shoes – compliment it. Be specific. In this way you show her you notice the little things. Trust me, this is impressive for a man. Makes you stand out immediately.

8. HOW TO WOO A WOMAN BY BEING POSITIVE

how to woo a woman make her laughOne of the shortest routes to a woman’s heart is to make her smile (note that this comes only after she smells your awesome perfume). Although the evening shouldn’t be a comedy show, making her laugh once in a while will keep the energy positive.

As Maya Angelou says “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

9. IF YOU WANT TO AWE A WOMAN, DON’T TOUCH YOUR PHONE

Phones became almost natural extensions of our hands.

Still – nobody likes the other person to stay on the phone when there’s a conversation going on. Not even a small peak. In fact, put the phone in your pocket and forget you have it. Turn the notifications off and expect the same from the other side as well.

10. NO EXES ON THE TABLE, PLEASE! THAT’S NOT HOW YOU WOO A LADY

Your ex-girlfriend – the reason your heart is broken, the reason for your grey hair, the reason you don’t believe in love…

She was part of your life once and just for a while.

She might have ruined your past but it’s up to you to not let her ruin your future.

Don’t “invite” her on the first date with a girl that potentially could be something more serious and better than the ex.

Your first date is for the two of you and no one else.

11. WOMEN ARE ALWAYS IMPRESSED BY A GENTLE EYE CONTACT

We live our days with eyes glued to the phone screen, typing, messaging, liking, tweeting, swiping…

The normal eye contact happens less and less often. That’s what makes it so special… Use it as your mane advantage if you want to know how to woo a woman.

dating-first_dateWhen you talk and share something important, you may tend to look at your hands, fork, the door behind her or your toes. If something is important to you, she has to see it in your eyes. Look into her eyes and see her reaction, the sparkles when she hears something interesting, the simple shine of warm feelings, the shyness, the awe… Everything you need to know lives in her eyes.

12 KEEP THE DATE SHORT

I know you don’t expect something like that to woo a woman.

Stick with me, I  want to show you how this could win you a second date.

Ok, so you two are out. You are having fun, the conversation is great, she laughs, you laugh. You never want to let her go.

Let me ask you something.

If you like to play games on your computer, which one do you prefer – the game which will take you few hours to get to its end or the one that would eat days of your life, emerging you into its virtual world, exploring more and more every time you sit in front of the monitor?

I bet it’s the second one.

Well, imagine your dates are like levels of a pc game. You need to explore each one of them and it requires time. But you wouldn’t go to the next level until you learn everything you need to know in the previous one.

If you want to know how to woo a girl on the very first date, explore her and let her explore you bit by bit. Level after level. If you manage to tell her the story of your life, your dreams and goals for the future and list every quality you have, there’s nothing to look for on the second date.

Keep the date short, give her just a piece of the pie, not all of it.

13. PAY THE BILL

Oh, yes. The bill.

The most awkward moment form the first date.

The opinions about who pays the bill at the end of the first date are as many as the dating experts.

Ok, I might be overreacting a little bit, but you know what I mean. In the gentleman’s spirit, I would like to tell you that women nowadays will still be impressed by the guy who pays the bill over the one who doesn’t.

I’m sorry to tell you that but it has nothing to do with the money.

It’s all about the romancing, it’s a gentlemen’s gesture, it will woo her.

Even if she offers to chip in too, don’t do it.

Also if she makes more money than you – don’t do it.

I don’t say anything about the future dates, only the first one. Be the gentleman who gave her a flower, opened the doors for her and paid the bill for the few drinks the dinner. It’s not about the money, it’s about the message you send her – the fact you enjoy her presence.

13. KEEP YOUR HAND TO YOURSELF IF YOU WANT TO WOO A WOMAN

An appropriate touch on the hand at some point in the evening is totally alright. But other than that – keep your hands to yourself. Any type of hugs or holding hands will be weird, it will look pushy and awkward. You don’t want that on the first date, do you?

However: At the end of the date, if you see you are connecting and want a second date – a simple hug would do wonders for both of you.

15. FIRST KISS? NOT IF YOU WANT TO IMPRESS HER AS A GENTLEMAN WOULD

If you know each other since forever, and finally made the next step – the first kiss will be perfect.

Other than that – skip it. In some countries people have the tradition to kiss each other’s cheeks – if that’s your case, do it. The first kiss has to come at the moment she knows you better and feels relaxed in your presence. And as women let me tell you that the first date is a pressure big enough without having to worry about kisses.

16. GIVE HER LIFT BACK TO HER HOME NO MATTER WHAT

You know there wouldn’t be a second date.

In fact, you are sure you will never see her again.

Even if you don’t like her as much as you’d want to, give her a lift back home if you picked her up. If she’s with a car, walk her to it. It’s just the right thing to do.

17. AFTER THE DATE IS OVER, YOU COULD STILL AWE HER

The date didn’t end at the moment she stepped out of your car.

If everything was perfect and you enjoyed yourself – let her know.

When you get home, send her a small text message saying you had a lovely time and thank her for that. Even if she doesn’t reply or you don’t see each other anymore. Be open to the people and don’t think that showing your affection could push her away. I bet she spent the evening looking for signs you liked her.

first_date_advice-datingSending her a message after the date is over will give you the chance to put the last special drop in the glass full of romance this evening. On top of that, it’s a great way to find out if she feels the same. Don’t make a conversation out of that message unless she starts it. Just thank her for the evening if you liked it and wish her good night.

18. “SECOND DATE” DOUBTS AND HOW TO WOO A WOMAN

Ok, for some reason something went wrong, and you have doubts either to ask her out again or to forget about her. If you’re sure there’s nothing there and you two are just not getting along as well as you thought you would – leave it there.

Don’t make promises of a second date (when you know it won’t happen).

However, if you have doubts and feel unsure, the best thing is to ask for a second date. She either had the same doubts as you did and will decline a second date or will agree and you’ll have a chance to make up your mind. Everyone has days when they don’t feel 100% themselves, or they just act a bit weird when nervous. Keep in mind that may be your case.

Therefore, give it a go if you feel you need to see more of her personality.

Let me know which one of these first date advice you liked the most or which one you would never implement in your mind and stay positive. The right girl will appreciate you.

Find Love! Hold Love! Be Love!

2 thoughts on “How to Woo a Woman on Your First Date: 18 Ways”

  1. Geoff Ainsworth

    Lot’s of wrong here, Women don’t want respectful, Women HATE if you insist you pay the bill, was early or on time and gave a hug after but it was thanks for the dinner as that’s all I was after from women. It’s a disgrace these days. The one thing that did work was flowers. If you women really want respectful SAY IT AND MEAN IT, If you don’t SAY IT! Decide what you really want beforehand and stop wasting people’s time and be a proper female adult!. I am the one of the few or any left of the respectful gentleman left but get treated like garbage every time I do so and that’s why no good guys left.

    1. I’m sorry to hear you have such a bad experience with women, Geoff.
      However, you have to admit that there are good gentlemen such you and bad guys who treat women wrong. It’s exactly the same with women – there are ladies out there that search for decent gentlemen and women that go after other things in life and treat guys wrong. I know plenty of decent people (men and women) and I know that the wooing is still appreciated. I congratulate you that you still treat women with respect no matter they want it or not because you should never wait for someone to ask for respect, you should give it by default.

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