If you are growing an apple tree and expect its fruits to feed you during the next summer, would you think of the negative alternative “What if I don’t have a single apple to eat?” Yes?
My answer is No.
And here’s why.
It’s very simple actually.
If that apple tree needs my attention and care all year round, every day, and I decide to divide that time and energy between the tree and something else, chances are – the tree won’t grow. It just won’t get what it needs to grow and give fruits.
Let me transfer this into your life.
If you dream of getting into a college to study medicine, you know that the clear path is only one. You should read, write and study almost from dusk till dawn to make it happen. Will you spear some time to prepare for the alternative to not get in? Will you choose to spend four hours daily on worrying what will happen if you’re not accepted? Will you waste your energy on the negatives? Most likely, no.
Well, that’s precisely what I say.
Everything you approach in your life is similar to getting into that college.
When you want something to happen and decide to go for it, do it with 100% of you believing it will happen. Any half or full percentage of disbelieve and consideration of “what if” will lead you exactly to the place you don’t want to end up in – failure.
If you have an idea for a business but struggle with the negative alternatives – forget about them. The only way to make things work is to know that there’s no other way but to make them work. The consideration of alternatives comes when they serve your desired outcome.
If you want to change something in your life – never leave a door opened to go back. The security of the old will take your look away from the opportunities ahead of you.
If you love someone but think “what if I end up alone again?”, that will take precious moments to experience this love fully and to give it a proper evaluation.
Never think of the negative alternatives.
As far as I’m concerned – they don’t exist.
All of this has nothing to do with taking risks. It’s all about believing that the risk will pay off.
As Jonas Salk says: “There’s no such thing as failure. There’s just giving up too soon.”
Thomas Edison success with the light build comes after 10 000 failures. But he says “I have not failed, I’ve just found 10 000 ways that won’t work.”
If you cannot make that business work this year, try again the next one. If it doesn’t work again, change something, spear few hours daily to work on it, to make it happen. Never give up on it.
If you need a personal change, go fully for it. If it doesn’t happen for a day or two, try the day after that again. Next week as well. And then – the next one.
If you love someone – love him with all of your heart. Create together your happiness, laugh as much as you can, trust your guts and never think “what if”.
Nothing’s impossible in our lives.
The main difference between the people that make dreams come true and those that don’t is that the first ones never give up as the only way out for them is the success.
Whatever it is in your heart, if it resonates with who you are – keep doing it.
Never, ever give up.
I know, I won’t…