Girls talk – advice on how to attract the man you like

He looks impressive, he is smart and has a sense of humour. And you really like him. But you’re unsure if he knows that. We offer you just a few (or more) tips to help you find out how to attract a man you like.

What Does NOT Attract a Man To a Woman?

The main thing before you even start doing anything to show him you’re interested in him is not to be desperate.

Your Situation: You haven’t been in a relationship for so long. He looks like the man of your dreams, you see a future, and there should be nothing on your way being together, the stars and the moon… Stop!

Do you know what will stop you from attracting him?


Desperation pushes everybody away. Including the man you like.

Even if you don’t admit it, you know when you act desperate. It doesn’t matter if you think your time to be happy with someone has come. Let things follow their natural way. Relax and enjoy the process. Besides, have you forgotten how joyful life as a single lady could be?

Try to live with the belief that you’re exactly where you need to be in this world; then everything will fall into place.

Now let’s go straight to the subject of how to attract the man you like.

What Attracts a Man To a Woman First?

Without keeping the secret anymore, there it is:


It all starts with femininity!

Men are always unavoidably attracted to a woman who glows with her femininity. It’s in the gestures, in the look of her eyes, the way he touches her hair and her walk. Femininity is in the clothes that shape her body in a complementary way, in the perfume and the bracelets she wears. Femininity can be seen outside but comes only from inside.

Gentleness, confidence, kindness, soft look in the eyes, gracious smile… it’s all that and much more. The man you like cannot help himself but feels an immediate allure towards you, once he notices your femininity.

So, let us go through each one of these traits of femininity and see how you could reveal them next time you see the man who holds your heart…


1. Gentleness

This is one of the less popular types of behaviour lately.

We are used to be loud and announce our opinions clearly and with “my-idea-is-the-best” manner. While everyone is intolerable to the other’s points of views, the woman with gentleness in her, will listen more and express herself with more care.

  • She never puts herself in front of the rest of the group, even if she’s the most knowledgeable one.
  • She is open-minded and doesn’t judge people around her based on a few sentences.

What attracts men about a woman who’s gentle?

Her uniqueness makes her stand out. She looks almost unreal to the others.

So, you might be trying to attract him by being loud and drag his attention to him… At the same time, the only thing you should probably do is be gentle to the people around you and respect the surroundings.

2. Confidence is an art…

I talk about the other type of confidence…

Chad Stone says in his book The Love Magnet Rules “A confident woman is aware of her own value and what she offers to a man. She does not need a man to make her complete, she wants a man in her life. She is filled with love and wants to share her love with a special man.”

This is the confidence I refer to.

Very few people know the difference between believing in yourself and thinking you’re the best walking human being ever! 

To value your individuality and to be happy with your inner self is more attractive than any lipstick on this Earth.

And if you try to attract a man, confidence is your best friend in this situation.


how to attract a man you like
Basic steps on how to attract a man you like

So yes, you are gorgeous and unique. That’s why you have to keep your head up and to appreciate the things you’ve achieved in your life. The right man will esteem and nurture that part of you. If you want to know how to attract the man you like – start by reminding yourself that You are enough! To create happiness, you need just one person – You! Hold on to that, honour it, embrace it and respect it. Once you get to that point – you’re halfway to his heart.


Although I mentioned something about the lipstick…

3. If You Want To Attract The Man You Like – Look Attractive

The very first part of the good impression is the way you look.

There’s no way to pass by that… Men are visual human beings. The love a woman with their eyes first.

If that’s the case – please his eyes.

Wear something that makes you feel beautiful, feminine, on top of the world… as long as it doesn’t show 80% of your body to the outer world, of course.

The way you look could speak louder than your words!

Here’s how:

Recently, I was invited to a wedding of a relative of mine. I met a girl who worked in the healthcare sector. She was beautiful, smart and chatty. She was with a group of friends, and they were having fun, drinking, laughing and dancing. She was wearing the shortest dress ever and the neckline of that dress… well, it almost didn’t exist. Before the end of the evening, a friend of mine told me that this girl is looking for something more going to the short-term experience than a meaningful, serious relationship (it’s not appropriate to quote his exact words here). The way a woman dresses tells men more than enough about the ladies’ goals for the evening.

If you still don’t know how to dress to attract a man, let’s say that you shouldn’t choose anything you wouldn’t recommend to your little sister.

4. To look good includes being healthy as well.

Interesting fact: In a subconscious level, men always pick the healthier looking woman. It tells their brain a healthier lady would be able to carry and deliver healthy children.

He doesn’t know it, but the man you’re trying to attract wants you to be healthy.

An active way of life – Zumba, jogging, fitness or walks in the park, whatever makes your energy increase – do it. Be careful with the junk food and go to the hairdresser more often. These are only part of the things you have to do for yourself. That will help you to attract not just the person you like but everyone around you as well.

5. How To Attract The Man You Like By Being Happy And Positive

Aren’t you fed up with everyone saying you should be happy to positive to attract someone?

I know I am!

I cannot walk around with a huge smile all the time, sprinkling Christmas songs and sending kisses to every single human being I cross my path with…! I refuse!

And yet, happiness and positivity have nothing to do with jumping and clapping with hands on the streets!

how to attract the man you like stepsShort story to teach you something:

Imagine yourself walking into a bank office. You have to ask for a loan, and you’re not really sure you’re going to get it. You see two women. The first one looks at you and smiles like she was waiting for you all day and the second one gives you a serious look like something’s wrong with your shirt… You’re not sure if she enjoys her job and wants to interact with anyone today. Where would you go to ask for the loan? It’s obvious, right?


Now, this is how most of the guys feel when they have to ask a girl out.

It’s like they’re in a new and weird place and most of the time it’s a shot in the dark. A smile and a positive attitude will attract men and make them feel relaxed. It shows them you’re with an open heart and approachable, and the chances for them to get a date –  bigger.

Don’t smile all the time so he can see you. That’s unnecessary and takes away the beauty of the process.

Here’s a technique to try next time the man you like looks at your direction. Actually, wait for a single second and then smile slowly. Do it with the delay, and this will have an immediate effect on him. You send him a signal “You make me smile. I like You.”

6. Be A Love Magnet

Have you ever thought that to attract something (someone), you need to see yourself as a magnet?

I thought so!

I recently finished a huge project, working on 10 Best Love and Relationship Books, and I believe at least one of them is created especially for you – The Love Magnet Rules.

Chad Stone knows things about how women can attract men. He says “Men are attracted to women who are happy and content with themselves. Men are intrigued when a woman doesn’t need someone to love, but still embraces love.”

If you are interested in learning more how to wake up the Love Magnet in yourself, check out his book on Amazon or jump over to my review on it by clicking here.


7. How to Attract the Man You Like By Finding Things In Common

Create an immediate bond with him by sharing a passion you both have.

Can you imagine your own reaction if you have a huge passion for pens and he takes out his phone to show his collection of Hugo Boss/Mont Blanc/Koh-I-Noor pens (I had to Google those)? You would spend the next three hours comparing ink and pens, wouldn’t you?

Finding that you like the same books, sports, movies or sharing a hobby interests increases the chances for a successful relationship. Subconsciously he will be attracted to you, and almost everything that happens at the beginning of your relationship will be defined by your common passion.

However, don’t try to lie about it just to get his attention. It looks childish, and he’ll find out sooner than you could imagine.

8. Last chance to attract him – body language and conversation.

It is as important as everything else on our list. The smile and eye contact are one of the ways to show attraction. You can also try to touch his hand or shoulder during a conversation. But remember, it should look natural, not weird or unreasonable. You will quickly see if he reacts to you and this will be an excellent opportunity to show you feel him more close to you than just a random guy.

Once you get to the conversation part, it’s really easy-peasy to get him to ask you out. Go ahead and check my other post on that subject as well. Overall, men feel attracted to women who don’t talk only about themselves, but getting to a point he feels like he’s under investigation is too much.

The best advice I could give you is the simplest one – be yourself! No matter where the things go – if you’ll never see him again or you will end up in Spain for a honeymoon, both ways you’ll be happy the first time you met him, you were just being … You. Compliment him if you see an opportunity, be witty and listen carefully. Concentrate your attention 100% on him – he’s the one you talk to.

As a conclusion

Whatever happens after putting yourself in action, remember – if he likes you, he should do something about it as well.

Never chase a man.

If he doesn’t pay attention to you after a while, don’t chase him and don’t be depressed. He’s just not the right for you, and the best is yet to come.


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Find Love! Hold Love! Be Love!


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