How To Know If He Is The One? 17 Signs He Is Your Future!

How to know if you found the right person? What makes the difference between a soulmate and just a traveler?

In this post we are talking of 17 signs he is your perfect partner in life and you will stick together for a very long time.

Can you relate to the following?

You meet a man, and you feel the butterflies in your tummy. He is perfect, gorgeous, and you match together so well that you start seriously considering he is your perfect match.

Soon after you start your relationship, though, you quickly close your eyes in front of one or two red flags. You keep doing that thing for a few months (or even years) until you finally admit that no, he is not a good addition to your life. So, you break up.

And now you are in a situation where you feel like you can’t trust yourself anymore. You are with another gorgeous man and truly (seriously) consider him as the only man you want to spend your life with. He is husband material and treats you so well that you melt every time you are in his arms.

However… How to allow yourself to relax and believe he is the one if you already went through that process and you ended up wrong?

17 Ways You Can Tell If He Is The One To Spend Your Life With

See 17 signs your man is your perfect match. Take away the doubts and rest assured – you’ve met the love of your life.

1. Honesty is the perfect bridge between you two

In my conception, this is the primordial sign that proves he is the one for you to marry.

Honesty can give you the power to be yourself in front of him and him to love you no matter what. Having this feature strongly developed in your relationship will make you both feel safe, more bonded than ever, and free to feel whatever you want. Free to be scared, free to have mixed feelings, free to ask questions that will provide proper answers for building your trust in this relationship.

This is what honesty does: it gives you a chance to love genuinely.

2. You see in his eyes your true reflection.

And you love what you see.

Remember that day when you looked in the mirror and had second thoughts about yourself? That day when you looked at your body in that tiny mirror from your parent’s house, and you felt like you’re not enough?

Well, when he is the right one, those fears vanish. You look in his eyes, and you see yourself smiling. And that perfectly imperfect smile makes you beautiful. HE makes you feel gorgeous because, in his eyes, you’re perfect.
You know, people usually have this strong power over us – to take or to give, and your chosen one will take away your fears or insecurities and give you the opposite.

A woman who receives love is the strongest woman alive. Treat a woman with kindness and love, and you’ll feel at home despite the challenging times.

Therefore, let him love you and look in his eyes more often to remember how beautiful you are.

3. Waking up next to him is the best feeling in the world.

And there is nothing that can overpass this. How many times have you woke up and wondered if he is the one? Is he the REAL one? And then you looked at him, and you plunged into an ocean full of peace, joy…and silence. That’s the moment you answered your questions.

Was it Yes?

4. The idea of a family and having 1,2,3 kids doesn’t scare you anymore.

This is a scorching topic, a subject that can scare many of us, but not now. Not anymore.

Knowing he’s the one gives you comfort to put together pieces from your plans. Thinking of a house with three kids or only one, or maybe none but a dog or two, makes you feel happy and content. You embrace the ideas of enormous responsibility and commitment because you know he is the one you want to marry with and next to him, you can build an entire world.

And that’s true love, my dear friend.

5. He is The One when his arms are your home.

A total cliche, but a needed one!

His arms are the perfect place to feel insecure. The ideal place to be yourself, to remove the masks we have to wear in this rotten society. To cry until your tears are over, to laugh hysterically and not feel judged about it, but on the contrary, your laugh to be the best sound in the world (as silly as it can be).

“Home” has so many definitions, but the most beautiful of all is love. Home is where your heart is, they say, and I couldn’t agree more.

6. You encourage each other in everything you do.

The key to a successful relationship stands in communication. Communication is the only way to achieve a healthy and powerful relationship in which both of you get to win something, be it a smile in the morning, a warm hug at the end of the day, a shoulder on which to cry your deepest sorrows.

Let’s think of a flower.

What does it take to bloom? Water. Is it enough? Maybe for some, it is, but I am 100% convinced that it needs more than that. It needs love and affection; it needs someone to talk with it (yes, flowers react to our words and feelings towards them).

So, if a flower needs these three simple things to bloom, imagine what it can do to a relationship? Magic.
Support each other, say your thoughts out loud, express your opinions with pros and cons, accept each other’s desires, and help him achieve his goals and build his dreams.

Love is beautiful. Why not taking advantage of it?

7. Changes and the hardship of life are no longer a challenge for you because together, you’re stronger.

I think every one of us knows that life is a rollercoaster, sometimes with more downs than ups, but I bet that knowing he’s the one makes you enjoy this crazy road, isn’t it? Life happens, no matter our plans, and life is hard, but as long as you stay together, there’s no wave too big for the both of you.

Keep your hands tightened and love each other more than ever in your most challenging time because that’s the moment when the bond is getting stronger, and your relationship will go to the next level: a wiser, long-lasting, and healthy one.

8. You both manifest your dream house.

How can you tell if he’s the one?

Having the exact expectations regarding your dream house, trust me on this. Working together on a massive dream of having a home is the biggest project you could have together as a couple. Even if they say that building a house with your partner is the most challenging thing that could happen to someone (challenge accepted).

So try to have a common goal. When you have your time together, sit on that cozy couch on a winter night, cuddle in his arm, take a sip from that warm tea and pick the color of your curtains together. Decide how many rooms you want for your kids, think of how many beautiful mornings you will enjoy your coffees on the deck… hold his hand, and dream. Together.

9. Life is easy next to him.

Summertime and the living is easy…at least this is what Ella Fitzgerald would say. But yes, living is easy because you are lucky to have him. When he is your soulmate, you feel like all your worries vanish. Nothing can touch you or hurt you because he’s your superhero.

I was having a conversation yesterday with my husband about trust and driving. I love driving, I could drive hour after hour and still enjoying it, but that was before our child. That’s the moment when I realized what a big responsibility I have when I take the wheel, so my pleasure of driving vanishes at that moment when I see my daughter in the rearview mirror.

But not when he’s driving. No. That’s the moment when I feel safe and sound, and I can sleep or play with my daughter without having dark dreams about our road trip. And that is why life is easy next to him.

10. You even forget your name…because he loves to call you in many other sweet ways.

This is a thing that makes me smile every single time. I do feel that receiving a cute nickname is the confirmation of a well-grounded relationship. I know that we’re all grown-ups, and maybe we don’t have time for sweet nothings, but I also know that deep down, you wish for him to call you ‘sweetie, honey, love’ or God knows how many other cute names are out there.

So if he does that and for a very long time, you even start to feel like that is your actual name, and when he gets to call you on your real one, well, maybe that is a sign that there is something wrong.

Life is too short not to have nicknames, right?

11. He pushes you to pass your limits and become the best version of yourself.

And he does that because he knows how capable you are of doing those things. He knows you’re strong and intelligent, and you deserve more. That’s the moment when he starts pushing you to do something that maybe you don’t find pleasant at the beginning, but they will satisfy you after dealing with them, for sure.

Be rational and try to see his good intentions. Love, by definition, means to accept the other as it is, and to love the other one is good and bad.

Now let’s have an imagination game again. Have you thought that maybe, just maybe, when he suggests you at least try to go running with him, let’s say, he wants to make you feel better with yourself? Because let’s face it, we, as women, never feel skinny enough, fat enough, smart enough, beautiful enough. He paid attention to your complaints about the numbers on the scale, and that’s when the invitation for a workout popped in.

You get to spend time together, have fun, gain some muscles, and maybe lose some extra weight. To me is a total win.

Disclaimer: pay attention to the tone he’s using. If you still get to feel love in his voice when telling you this, then yes, it’s totally acceptable. Otherwise, don’t let anyone bring you down because of your physical appearance. You are beautiful in all your shapes, and no man in this world can tell you the opposite.

12. Girls’ night out? You have it! He cherishes your personal space and time.

No matter how much you enjoy spending time together, you need your personal space. And he needs it too. You need time to reflect on your thoughts, live your OWN life, enjoy time with different persons, and exchange different opinions regarding life aspects. It would be best if you had time to think about something else, to detach from the fantastic world you built together at your home and face other challenges. You are in a relationship, not in a cage of feelings.

There’s no individual in this world that doesn’t need a glimpse of freedom. Sometimes we don’t realize how much we want it, but believe me that deep down, this is what you need. Just try to stay away a couple of hours several days in a row or even having the opportunity to have a girl’s trip, and then you’ll see how much you missed each other, and you’ll feel like your love for him is even stronger.

So don’t be afraid to spend time alone, and if he accepts this, then girl, he’s the one!

13. He respects your decisions.

And this is a thing that you should never compromise with.

Besides being his better half, you are still an independent and strong woman, right? Therefore, your right to have your decisions is on the table. His job is to accept whatever you decide to do and communicate his opinion but not deciding 100% what you should do on your behalf.

Remember that respect is that one thing that keeps your love relationship alive.

14. Him not being around you anymore shakes your world.

When he’s the one for you, and you’ve been dreaming about your future house and how many kids you’re going to have, the idea of not having him around…freezes you. And now I’m not putting on the table the image of a sick love based on addiction, no.

When saying all of these, I’m asking you how would you feel if your roads will split one day. Only thinking about it, I bet it makes your heart rate going like crazy, and the only thing you want to do is to go and hug him at that very moment, and you promise him never to let him go.

And it’s ok…

15. Your arms feel like the most lavish palace for him.

And you’re his queen.

How beautiful it is when after a tough day, he comes back home, looks you in the eyes, gives you a smile in the corner of his mouth, and jumps into your lap. He finds peace in your arms. He wants you to caress him. He wants you to make him feel safe and sound. And that’s a huge thing.

So embrace him, love him as much as he wants you to do it, enjoy that moment of release he has and feel yourself lucky that your arms are his sweetest escape.

16. Your funny laugh is the cutest thing for him.

Because this a part of you. This is what makes you, YOU. This is something that gives you charm and beauty, and this is what made him fall in love with you.

Imperfection is what makes us unique. And it’s simply magical to see how a person’s flaw is another’s reason to love that person. This is true love; this is what being next to the right person means: to accept and be accepted as you are, to put aside the idea of changing your better half. What’s the point of changing someone if there is true love between you two?

So, if your funny laugh is the best thing that could have happened to him, you’ve found your better half.

17. His happiness is your happiness.

This is my favorite sign that he is the one for you to marry.

Seeking the other’s happiness is the best proof of true love, and if you’re looking to make him happy, no matter what, I think you are really in love. His happiness is what makes you smile every day, and you know that the reason why you’re doing it is that you’re receiving the same treatment.

It’s like a fair trade where everyone is winning. And what’s your prize? Endless moments of happiness, joy, and peace. Is he the one?

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How To Know If He Is The One? 17 Signs He Is Your Future!