Should You Kiss a Guy On The First Date

From the very first moment he asked you out on a date, there was just one thought in your head, “Should I kiss him at the end of the date or not?”. I know many women don’t ponder too much over this one, but you probably do, just as I used to back in my dating years.

So, here are a few things for you to consider before deciding if you should kiss a guy on your first date together. Also, don’t forget to check our pro-guide on how to flirt with him properly, so you make him obsessed with you.

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Rules for First Date Kissing 

Kissing on the first date can be a touchy subject. For some people, it’s a major no-no, but it can be accepted in certain situations for others. There are plenty of signs you should be on the lookout for to determine whether to initiate a kiss or not.

Things to consider can be body language, the chemistry between you, how fun the date was, how the conversation flowed, and whether or not you are hoping for a second date or not. 

If you feel attracted to your date, you might find it difficult to hold back from giving them a smooch when you begin to part ways. However, be careful! If you misread the signs, you risk being rejected and finding yourself in an awkward situation. 

If you search online (or ask your friends), you’ll discover a sea of opinions on the first-date kissing protocol. However, when it comes to your own dating life, you are the only one that can determine what’s the best course of action. 

This being said, here are some pointers on things to evaluate when deciding if kissing on the first date is suitable for the specific case you are subjected to. 

What does his body language tell you? 

Before even considering kissing your date, take a moment to ponder – are they even interested in you? One way to decide that is by examining their body language. People like to touch the things they like and be physically close to the ones they feel attracted to. Even if it’s your first date with this person, if they like you, they will try to touch you as much as possible – of course in a subtle way. 

What do I mean? Things like placing their hand on the small of your back as you walk through a door or touching your hand across the table as you are telling a story definitely express an interest. Direct eye contact is also a good sign. 

Did you know that 93 percent of human communication is non-verbal? This includes vocal and visual cues that can help determine if your date is into you. Something else to keep your eye on is how much of a physical distance your date keeps between you. Are they 3 feet away at all times? Or are they staying close to you at every suitable moment? If so, then it’s safe to say that your date probably feels connected to you and won’t mind your kiss. 

Are sparks flying? 

Chemistry is an important thing to look out for when you are on a first date with someone. After all, you want to evaluate if you are a match with the person to potentially start a relationship with them. There needs to be a suitable level of chemistry between the two of you for this to happen. You can take note of any flirty remarks, and if 

Sometimes it’s difficult to determine whether or not there is even chemistry between two people if no physical contact is initiated. Sure, you could have gently touched skin to skin or even held hands, but the impact of a kiss is much greater than simple skin contact. For the sake of your exploration, you can kiss your date just to make sure you aren’t wasting your time on someone you have zero romantic potential with. 

If the kiss turns out just as unique as your date was, then at least you know that you two are likely meant to be. On the other hand, if it’s bad, you can read this as a sign that your romantic styles aren’t compatible, which could be troublesome as time goes by. 

Did you have a fun date? 

If you enjoyed your date and you feel like both of you had a blast – sealing the evening with a kiss could be the perfect ending to the perfect date. Having a fun date can make you let your guard down, which further makes you comfortable in the other person’s presence. This isn’t necessarily a bad thing – it can mean that you are both on the same page and you are vibing, which is a very important aspect of a future relationship. 

Relationships are built of two things – chemistry and attraction, as well as friendship. Most people tend to focus purely on chemistry initially but forget that friendship is equally important as you won’t be able to have a harmonious connection without it. This is why if you feel that the base of the friendship is there, you can explore a little more by kissing your date to leave him with the right idea. 

Sometimes people make fun and friendliness as a sign they need to back off. If you enjoyed your date’s company and genuinely like them, communicate this in the best way possible. Trust me; chances are they are on the same wavelength as you and will be thankful you took that step. 

Follow your instincts!

Was the conversation flow good? 

People have differing motivations for kissing others, especially on first dates. You might just want to get laid for the night, or you might really like the person and aim to start a potential relationship. If you are part of the latter group, take a second to think about the conversations you had on your date. Were they captivating and intellectually stimulating? Did you enjoy the conversation flow, or was it awkward between you since you didn’t have much to talk about? 

If you flowed naturally together, then kissing is probably a good idea. If you had trouble finding topics to discuss and there were plenty of awkward silences during your date, I suggest you think carefully if you want to put your tongue in the other person’s mouth. You might make things more awkward, and to be honest – what exactly are you aiming to achieve? 

We often hear the phrase “go with the flow,” but most of us have real difficulties implementing it in our lives. The truth is that this is exactly what you should do – don’t force a connection if there isn’t a potential for it to grow. Typically you can assess this from just one date, so trust your gut and listen to what your instincts tell you. 

Do you want to get a second date? 

Now, this is a tricky one. You shouldn’t kiss anyone with some sort of agenda, especially if you think it will lead specifically to a second date. Humans aren’t robots, and they aren’t wired with the simple “if this, then that”. People are complicated, and if you kiss and then think that will definitely get you a second date, I suggest you think twice. 

I have had situations where a guy has kissed me on the first date, and I have never heard from him again. I have also had a guy not kiss me for the first three dates, and now we have been together for more than a year. This is why, to prevent having your heart broken because your expectations haven’t been met, I suggest you just do what feels right at this moment. If he were your person, he would definitely want a second date, kiss, or no kiss.