How Do You Know If A Guy Is Toxic?
Here’s how you recognise you might be dating one of the types of toxic men…
Do you relate to the following feelings:
- Mind-blowing emotions are bursting through your body…
- Romantic whisper in your ear at the middle of the night…
- Cute puppy-eyes that convince you to do… whatever you’re asked to do…
- Hot and cold moments you hate but you’re addicted to.
- You never know what’s next and that freaks you out.
- You feel loved and ignored on the same day.
- You feel used and cherished at the same time.
- You want to run and yet you crave to come back.
- You are going crazy and hate yourself for staying in this situation. With this person. Day after day.
Do you need more?
Did you see yourself somewhere in these situations?
Toxic Types Men and Why Do You Always Fall For Them?
They always put you on the edge of your life, unsure where to go next and how to proceed.
Love hurts they say, but is it supposed to be so confusing? So crazy? Like in the movies? But… more depressing… and the happy end doesn’t seem so obvious as it is on the screen.
Toxic men could make you feel happy and devastated at the same time with one sentence. Toxic men could lift you up and bring you down so hard that when you hit the ground, you find out parts of you still hang in the air…
It hurts, and you love it. You love it, but it hurts.
“Should I stay or should I go?” is not just a song anymore but your daily mantra.
Up until the sign “He is not the right guy for me!” hits you in the head a few times, you deny the obvious and stick with each one of the toxic types of men you have in your life.
Here are the types of toxic guys you should avoid dating as they will bring nothing more but confusion and eventually will break your heart.
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1. The Bad Boy – The Most Toxic Type of Men
He will bring lots of adrenaline in your life.
He will fill your nights with head-spinning experiences and emotions you haven’t imagine you could have.
The passion will blow your mind and body, and you will be under his spell for a long time.
But he will skip your dates and forget his promises almost every time. He will get into stupid fights and will do illegal things you prefer not to know about.
Moreover, he will tell you how sorry he is, blowing the smoke of his cigarette in your face, and you will forgive him.
He will promise to change! Because of you! Just give him one more chance!
Please don’t!
2. The Job-Free Guy
You know he wants a decent job, right?
Do you think he deserves to work something he doesn’t love?
The best job in this world will come to him one day. And until that day comes, he shouldn’t do something below his level.
He will take loans from his friends, and when they refuse to sponsor him anymore, he will ask you for some cash. You will invest in his future, and he will pay back everything.. one day. You’re just not sure if that day will come in this life or the next one.
3. The Dream-Chaser | Toxic Type Of Men
We all have dreams, and I believe we all should do our best to achieve them.
But this guy has too many dreams.
Unrealistic goals.
He is 40-something years old but believes he has the undiscovered talent to sing, dance, or to balance an apple on his nose.
He hasn’t achieved anything yet, but with you by his side, the world will be amazed by him.
No, the world will be amazed by how blind you are not to see that if he is going to make his dreams come true, he would be already on the halfway there. He would have realistic goals and a decent plan for them.
Leave his dream-land and never look back.
4. The Workaholic
Number 4 of my toxic types of men list works 15 hours every day, and the weekend is another opportunity to show how much he likes his office, his boss, and the papers on his desk.
Of course, you will go on that holiday you talked about weeks ago. But this could happen only after that critical project at work has finished.
Sure, you will go to the cinema, but some other day – today he’s going to work ’till late.
Dinner together? Not a problem… but let’s do it next week, now he’s under huge pressure in the office.
Can you imagine your future together?
He will probably need a photo of his kids so he could recognise them in front of the school.
5. The Alcoholic | Types Of Toxic Men
No, he doesn’t have drinking problems. Just everybody around him is jealous he can drink so much.
The weekends for him will start on Friday afternoon in front of a huge pack of beer and will finish on Sunday evening with a pile empty bottles of whatever-he-managed-get-his-hands-on.
By the way, he does need these shots of tequila before work so he could properly wake up. Coffee is for the weak ones!
Girl, you aren’t overreacting, you simply stumbled upon one of the types of toxic men. Now, pack your bags and let the man enjoy his bottles. You won’t be able to build a healthy relationship with him.
6. Mommy’s Boy
He calls her every day and shares his thoughts and emotions with her.
He already showed her a photo of you. (She loves you, btw!)
No, it doesn’t matter you’re on your second date. She will be so happy to meet you. She always cooks for him roasted chicken with potatoes, and probably he will ask you if you can cook that as well. Well, mommy’s dishes are always better than yours, but I bet you’ll learn how to do things like Mommy sooner or later.
No, he doesn’t look for a relationship. He needs someone to babysit him. Preferably, his Mom!
7. All-Night-Out Party Guy
It doesn’t matter what day it is today. If the club is open, you will see him there – as well as many other types of toxic men around him.
This man will go to the club even if it’s just for an hour or two. The club is his second home; he knows everyone, and everyone knows him.
Can you imagine yourself home alone while he’s checking if the songs are still the same as last night?
By the way, I dated this type of toxic man once. He would wait for me to fall asleep and after that, he would out to the club without letting me know. I would wake up in the morning and he would still be somewhere with friends or sleeping on the sofa because it was too hard to get to the bed.
8. The Cheater
Everyone would agree he deserves a place on the list of toxic men to avoid.
It’s hard to recognize the Cheater at the beginning. Usually, we find out the truth when it’s too late.
But if you caught him once, then you should be aware that there will be a second time as well.
Forgiving and moving on after being cheated on requires strength and strong will. To build the trust back takes time. If he does it again – you better run.
A successful relationship is always based on trust, commitment, and respect. If he cannot appreciate you, don’t waste your time with him.
9. The Control-Freak Guy
He has his way to live this life.
And has a vision of how you should live yours as well.
Moreover, he doesn’t stop telling you that. He has to be informed where you are and what you are doing. He must approve everything you do before you do it.
Why would you trouble your beautiful head thinking of a problem solution. He is always around to tell you exactly what to do?
If there’s crazy personality among all these toxic men – that’s him! Run! ASAP!
10. Never-Keeps-His-Promises Guy
He was going to stop smoking last Monday, but you know how hard that is.
He was going to pick you up at 22:00 but so what if you had to wait another 20 minutes…
You were going to have kids, but now when the time has come for you, he’s backing off and looking stressed and confused!
You can never guess if he will do what he says. If you think a little bit more, the chance is – he won’t.
Would you give your time and feelings to someone who doesn’t respect himself enough to keep his word?
You want someone who will stay behind his word and will keep his promises.
But he’s not that man. Find the nearest exit of this type of unhealthy relationship.
11. The Golden Boy
He has all the money in the world, and that makes him so cool.
He likes to spend as much as he can. His parents will earn more for him. Money makes him the best walking man on Earth.
Everyone around him lives to serve him. Including you, even if he doesn’t act like that (yet).
This toxic type of guy gains popularity lately, so be careful, he might be around you already.
You wouldn’t want to stick around him for too long. Anyway, he sees you as just another jewellery in his life. Once there’s a new one around him, you might start looking “rusty” in his eyes.
How To Stop Dating Toxic Men and Find The Love Of Your Life?
Okay, now you know the types of toxic guy, but how do you distance yourself from them and start dating the decent ones? How to attract the man you truly need in your life?
Well, you must first understand what is the type of woman good men look for, and then become their obsession. Click here to see a helpful video.
Conclusion on 11 Types of Toxic Men To Avoid Dating
Many men will look like they are a combination of a few of these types of toxic personlities. Keep your eyes open when dating a new man. Be sure he loves you, respects you and is a decent man you will be proud having around you.
All types of toxic men will use you however they need, they will manipulate you to fit their idea of “perfect” and keep you near them for as long as they please. They don’t need you, and you certainly don’t need them.
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I was dating a toxic man, and I have dated toxic men in the past. I have been through a lot of abuse. My last relationship was 11 years. He turned out to have a wife out there. He lied of age, his family, even lied and took credit of military valor he had no part of. His lies go on and on. He was very clever. A very evil sort, as I look back. He ghosted me after an email telling me about his job, which I’m certain was also a lie. It seems crazy he pulled this off for 11 years. I did feel some gut feeling through the years and wish I had listened. I needed to toss the “rose colored glasses.” Its been 5 months now. I suppressed my feelings much of this time. I’m currently realizing my worth in my life, and taking time to be for me. I do NOT plan to date for some good amount of time, if ever. I’m in my late 40s. I don’t want to spend my entire life dating immature, lying, useless wastes of my precious time here on earth. I’d rather be alone. I feel like I’m better off this way.
before 2 years my boyfriend was too rude n scary for me and cause of that horrible behavior i cant leave him he used to yelled at me and told to bad words then i cried always, and now since 2-3 months he suddenly change because i told him to leave me and now he be like i’m the one for you but i still want to leave him but he don’t leave me. i passed out 2 years with him and my family and friends are too not happy to see me with him now i’m confuse that he really changed? i have to leave him or not please help me if uh can..
I believe you already know what you should do.
I feel as though my man isn’t right for me I told someone this morning I wanted to kill myself and my partner said let me help you. And when I lost control of myself He ignored me and didn’t even calm me down. If I’m nice to him he will do for me but when I have my bad moments it’s like fuck you attitude or actions.
Hi Jennifer, I’m sorry to hear about your struggles with your partner. It truly sounds like he’s been very rude and his reaction – extremely inappropriate. Please, be sure you are with a person who cares about you and wants to see you happy. I would suggest thinking about yourself first and evaluating if he is the right choice of a man for you.