How to love your husband in ways he will notice, appreciate, and inspire him to return the favor?
You’ve been together since “forever” and often feel like you’ve lost touch with the romantic part of marriage.
And you used to be romantic. You used to make breakfast for both of you with warmth in your heart. Now, it feels like a constant chore.
You used to cuddle and watch movies together. Now, you both have separate shows to binge on in two different rooms.
And it’s not that love is gone. It’s just covered with taxes, mortgage payments, the dog’s net vet appointment, and the children’s school projects.
Every day becomes a battle of ticking off as many things as possible before collapsing on the bed, and romance never makes it through the day.
Yes, you still love each other very much, and he is probably the most perfect, gentle, and bighearted person you’ve ever met…It’s just harder to express it.
Who has time to sit down and plan evenings with candles? Not you!
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How To Give Love To Your Husband
Allow me to throw in some cliches here: You don’t find time to love someone; you create it.
I know, it’s annoying and yet, true.
But here’s another worry you don’t know you have: You want to love your husband in a way he will see, understand, and appreciate it.
I will give you 77 ideas that are proven to work, but before that, I must ask you a question: What is your husband’s love language?
There are five love languages: acts of service, gifts, words of appreciation, touch, and quality time.
And we usually “speak” one or two of them. You want to find your husband’s love language before you shower him with intentional love because you want him to feel loved.
Gary Chapman, the author of Five Love Languages, has a great test to discover your man’s love language here. Then, come back to this post to see practical ideas that won’t waste your time.
Let’s dive in. (The video below features 30 of the ways only.)
77 Simple Tips on How To Love Your Husband
1. Kiss him often and longer. Try holding the kiss for 15 seconds. It makes it so much more romantic.
3. Cook his favorite meal. Even if you already do it often enough.
4. Get dressed especially for him. How long has it been since you last dressed, especially for him?
5. Tell him you love him. Over and over again. Look him in the eyes.
6. Get him his favorite beer. Maybe add some snacks to it?
7. Send him a sweet text message. (see 50 of them here)
8. Prepare his lunch for work.
9. Hide a love note in his pocket or in his wallet.
10. Send him a love song. It might sound a bit cheesy, but it will make him smile and think of you. Here are some love lyrics that will melt the heart.
Show love for your spouse
11. Great him warmly after work. Be happy he’s home and show enthusiasm.
12. Make him a cup of coffee. Give it to him with a kiss.
13. Take a bath together.
14. Ask him about his day, and listen to him as he tells you about it.
15. Send him out with the guys.
16. Go on a walk together.
17. Show interest in his hobby.
18. Share a secret with him. You know you have a few secrets from him. Share one.
19. Dream together. Never stop dreaming together.
20. Surprise him with a romantic weekend away.
Be thoughtful in your love for him
21. Buy him a book.
22. Write him a love letter.
23. Make a romantic fantasy come true. (This here is a bestseller that will give you ideas)
24. Go to the cinema and watch a movie of his choice.
25. Get him a ticket for his favorite team’s game. I promise all of his friends will know you bought him the ticket.
26. Send him a cute short video with a love message.
27. Call him just to tell him you love him.
29. Prepare breakfast in bed for him.
30. Take a shower together.
More ideas to love your husband
31. Wake up in the middle of the night and make love.
32. Prepare a cake for him for no reason.
33. Hide a naughty note in his lunch box.
34. Tell him how much you appreciate him.
35. Tell him you are proud of him.
36. Get him a video game.
37. Allow him to devote a full day to his hobby, no matter what it is.
38. Do a chore he usually does.
39. Clean his car. Or gift him this kit to will make him clean his car on the minute.
40. Go on a date together.
Easy Ways To Show Love To Your Husband
41. Encourage him in a difficult time.
42. Tell him he is the strongest man you know.
43. Hold his hand often.
44. Give him a back massage. Alternatively, get him this back massager, and he will totally adore you for it.
45. Create a photo collage of your favorite photos together.
46. Be happy around him.
47. Ask him about his dreams and goals.
48. Ask him if he needs your help with something. You will be surprised how important this one is. He would probably never ask you for help, so be the first to break the ice.
49. Get him a cute new coffee/tea mug. I love this one, honestly. See my top 5 favorite funny mugs every man wants:
- “A Hug In A Mug” bestseller
- “After This Brew, I’m Off To Poo” mug
- “Emergency Jokes” mug.
- “My Wife Is Hotter Than My Coffee. Yes, She Bought Me This Mug”
- “YODA Best Husband” for all Star Wars fans
50. Put on some nice lingerie.
Ideas to love your husband intentionally
51. Play “Talk. Flirt. Dare.”
52. Learn his love language.
53. Compliment him.
54. Surprise him on his lunch break.
55. Organise a romantic dinner for two at home.
56. Send him encouraging quotes every day for a week.
57. Make him laugh.
58. Gift him romantic songs playlist.
59. Exercise with him. Couples who sweat together stay together, right?
60. Visit his family earlier than planned.
Showing Love to Husband
61. Allow him to have a day for himself only.
62. Tell him he’s handsome.
63. Play a board game together. Check Cosmopolitan’s naughty game for couples everyone loves.
64. Ask him how to love him better.
65. Get him the “Why I Love You” book.
66. Get him a small but thoughtful gift.
67. Often touch him when you pass by him.
68. Support him in the decisions he makes.
69. Show respect daily.
70. Do striptease for him. You know he’ll love it.
Last Ideas To Love Your Spouse
71. Trust him more.
72. Stay up late talking about him.
73. Ask him about his childhood.
74. Dance with him in the living room.
75. Organise a party with his friends and send him an invitation.
76. Turn off your phone and spend time with him.
77. Truly show love in everything you do for him.
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How To Love Your Husband Intentionally in 77 Ways
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Dr.Pat.Howden
Tuesday 28th of January 2020
We're 86 & 70 pensioners but we don't do exactly ALL that is suggested, like she does all the total food garden & lawns, buys most food, showers me as it is a little difficult, puts on my socks. does ALL the paperwork & appointments, drives us in her car - else I have a micro electric scooter, a wizard at self-sufficiency, keeps an incredible home all over, fixes mechanical things even though I'm an engineer, invents & makes ingenious things for the home & garden, buys clever & ultra cheap by intense bargaining, seldom stops me laughing & gives superb kisses & cuddles.-.-.-. Well, in 84 countries I've lived with 220 de-factos but she is #1.
Celly
Monday 10th of February 2020
I love those wonderful idea how to love your husband. I like to wash his feet and do his nails and massage his feet with relaxing cream.
Joe
Thursday 7th of November 2019
... but what to do on the 2nd day ?? I'm a man, 68 years old, and I will say that this list is good, and on the right track. Something as simple as a surprise kiss or loving touch from your gal costs nothing, and takes a second, but it reverberates for hours. Romantic love is like a fire that two people tend together. Those loving actions they do are like adding wood to the fire - by sharing the effort they can both warm their hearts forever.
Rachel
Thursday 7th of November 2019
Thank you for your beautiful words, Joe! You are right - the simplicity in our everyday actions is what keeps the fire burning.
maria
Thursday 19th of September 2019
i appreciate all and understand, i love
Rachel
Thursday 19th of September 2019
Such a beautiful comment, Maria. Thank you! Wish you love.
Prem Sequeira
Wednesday 1st of May 2019
Hi Rachel, This list is great and it can help a lot of women to appreciate the men in their life. Your articles about healthy relationships are worth a great deal. I would like you to list "101 ways to love your wife intentionally" for all husbands who love their wives but have no idea how to show.
lisa
Wednesday 11th of December 2019
I am SO happy that I already do so many of these. Warms my heart.
Rachel
Thursday 2nd of May 2019
I'm happy you like this list of ways to show love for our husbands, Prem. And... Wow, that's such a great idea, thank you. I will create a "how to love your wife intentionally" list for the next week's Monday Motivation :)
Rosanna Lundberg
Tuesday 30th of April 2019
Hi Rachel, thank you for this post! I must admit, sometimes I get too busy with so much stuff to do in life and I forget to show some love with my hubby. Especially now being pregnant with having emotional roller coaster and I could only think about myself and my emotions. However, I felt bad for being that way, and I'm so blessed for having a very understanding husband. And this post have reminded me how lucky I am to have a hero and a real man in my life, and I should be more appreciative with all his efforts and love for me. This is awesome 77 Simple Tips On How To Love Your Husband Intentionally. And, I would definitely remind myself and save this on my list. Thank you!
Rachel
Wednesday 1st of May 2019
Thank you, Rosanna. I'm happy you liked this list. To be honest, being pregnant is one of the moments when you really aren't in control of your emotions, and that's expected and totally fine :) Don't feel bad about it. Actually, "not feeling normal" is "normal" when you are expecting. I believe your hubby knows you love and appreciate him even if you don't feel 100% yourself all the time. He is blessed if you think about him and his feelings. Just look after yourself, and that's enough for him :)