45 Things Women Like To Hear From Their Partners

Reassuring. Complimenting. Beautiful. Women like to hear these three types of things women like to hear.

It isn’t so complicated, but you could easily get confused about what makes her melt and what annoys her simply because you didn’t word it correctly.

How do I know?

My husband does it all the time, and while I don’t get annoyed (instead, we laugh about it for a few days before his next attempt), things aren’t going so smoothly for everyone.

Here’s the thing!

We, women, love with our ears. It isn’t news for you, I know. However… We also overthink every word you say; we find meanings you never intended to imply. We twist and turn until there’s nothing to twist and turn (and then find some more). So you better know exactly what to say and how to say it.

I will teach you!

Here are 45 things every woman wants to hear her man telling her. Not at once and not randomly, of course.

Here are a few occasions that would be good for squeezing a few nice words to compliment a woman:

Early in the morning, when you cuddle and say your goodbyes before going to work;
In a short random text message throughout the day (you want to add the cute ones here, not overly deep ones unless it’s a special occasion);
When you see each other at the end of the day;
When you cuddle before going to sleep;
When you’re having a serious, deep talk;
Any other time you feel like she needs encouraging, calming, or praising words. Listen to your guts on this one.

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Romantic Things Women Like To Hear

One basic rule that won’t be news for you is that you should mean every word you say, regardless of how many of those deep phrases you use. She can see if you’re nervous, but you mean it, and she can also see through you if you’re faking it. Pick only those that speak the truth in your heart.

Each phrase comes with a “when to say it” section that will give you three to four ideas, but don’t limit yourself to them. They are just for guidance so you understand the feelings behind them.

1. “I love and respect you for who you are.”

When to say it:

At the beginning of a serious conversation;
At the end of such;
When you want to assure her she’s heard and appreciated;
When she’s been honest about something that makes her feel uncomfortable (regardless of whether it’s relationship-related or not);

2. “I am proud of you and what you’ve achieved.”

When to say it:

When she achieves one of her goals;
She’s a bit down emotionally and needs a lift-me-up moment;
The conversation is about tough things she’s been through;

3. “I love spending time with you.”

When to say it:

At the end of a day you’ve spent together;
On your next holiday;
After a shared experience (a special date);
During spontaneous moments of affection;

4. “You make me want to be a better person.”

When to say it:

When she’s done something nice for someone else (a kind gesture);
At the end of a deep conversation you’ve had;
During a moment of self-reflection;
When you’re thinking of something she did that influenced you and impressed you;

5. “Tell me what you think about this. I want to hear your opinion.”

When to say it:

When you’re about to share an idea you had;
After sharing an event from your day and you want to hear her thoughts;
When you’re about to propose a change in your life;

pin image of a man hugging his girlfriend

6. “I’ve got your back, always!”

When to say it:

When she’s facing a problem in her life;
When she’s insecure about upcoming events;
Before she’s embarking on a new adventure in her life;

7. “You are the woman I’ve always dreamed of being with.”

When to say it:

At moments of deep connection and vulnerability;
When you celebrate relationship milestones (like an anniversary, your first Christmas together, and so on);
At an especially romantic dinner for two;
When she’s shared self-doubts and/or insecurities, she has;

8. “Tell me about your day.”

When to say it:

At the end of every day;
When she seems particularly down and/or worried about something but isn’t starting the conversation herself;
When you’re looking to start a deeper conversation;

9. “You are a strong woman, and I love/admire that about you.”

When to say it:

After she’s faced a challenge;
When she stands her ground and speaks her mind;
She’s telling you about a moment of her day when she had to speak her mind and stand her ground;
She’s been supportive of someone else;

10. “Smile, baby! Everything will be alright!”

When to say it:

When she is going through tough times;
During times of change and insecurity;
After she’s faced a setback;

couple preparing breakfast and being affectionate of each other

11. “I am here for you!”

When to say it:

When she opens up about a problem she has at the moment of talking;
If she’s feeling alone or isolated;

12. “We’ll get through this together.”

When to say it:

When she’s facing a challenge, or you face a challenge together;
When talking about future plans or changes;
After you’ve received unexpected news;
She needs your support regardless of the occasion;

13. “I cherish our moments together.”

When to say it:

When you are reflecting on your relationship;
At moments of shared gratitude and appreciation;
After a day of quality time together;

14. “You inspire me!”

When to say it:

When she’s achieved a milestone;
When you discuss her dreams and passions;
When she shares her victories from her past;

15. “I trust you!”

When to say it:

She is in a moment of self-doubt;
You’re discussing important plans;
When she seeks reassurance about how strong your bond is;

16. “I believe in you!”

When to say it:

When she is about to take on a new challenge or face a problem;
She shares a new goal;
In moments of appreciation and praise;

17. “You can do this!”

When to say it:

Before an important event, she is taking part in;
When she is feeling overwhelmed or stressed;
She is out of her comfort zone and panicking;

18. “Let’s talk about something. Anything!”

When to say it:

During quiet moments together, when you want to spark a new conversation;
When you want to talk about something deeper;
After a long weekend or week apart;

19.”Your heart is so kind, and it makes me love/appreciate you even more.”

When to say it:

After she does a good deed;
After she supports or comforts someone (even you);

20. “Thank you for being yourself.”

When to say it:

When she shows you her true emotions, even if they aren’t positive;
After she’s been honest about something uncomfortable;
During conversations about personal growth;

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21. “I’ve changed since I met you/You’ve changed me.”

When to say it:

At a relationship milestone (such as an anniversary);
In moments of reflection;
When you’re sharing the positive impact you’ve had on each other;

22. “Every moment we spend together feels special.”

When to say it:

During intimate moments together;
After a memorable day or night together;
In a quiet, meaningful moment;

23. “You can tell me everything.”

When to say it:

When you feel she is uncertain about sharing a problem and/or experience she’s had;
She seems emotional or overwhelmed by something;

24. “You are so attractive/irresistible when you’re passionate about something.”

When to say it:

When she talks about a hobby;
She talks about a new project she’s excited about;
You want to compliment her enthusiasm and dedication;

25. “You are especially cute now.” (when she’s super messy)

When to say it:

Early in the morning, before she even goes to the bathroom;
Late in the evening, when she’s exhausted and sleepy;
When she’s messy while working on a DIY project;
After a sweaty workout;

26. “Everywhere feels like home as long as I’m with you.”

When to say it:

While on vacation together;
When moving into a new place;
After a long day out, you’re finally embracing each other in a loving hug;

couple outdoors at autumn time affectionate

27. “I love it when you’re touching me.”

When to say it:

During intimate moments;
When she casually touches you or brushes against you;
While walking together and holding hands;

28. “I can’t keep my hands off you!”

When to say it:

While playfully flirting with each other;
She’s all dressed up and looking gorgeous;
In unexpected moments of attraction;
Every time you feel like it;

29. “You make me feel loved/appreciated/cherished/valued.”(don’t use ‘good’)

When to say it:

After she does something thoughtful about you;
In moments of gratitude and appreciation;
After she listens to you and shows support;

30. “You surprise me every day.”

When to say it:

After she does something out of character;
When she shares a new hobby or talent;
When she finds a way to keep the relationship fresh and exciting;

31. “When you smile like that… it’s everything.”

When to say it:

In moments of genuine happiness and deep love;
After a shared joke or a memory that lights up her face;
In moments when her joy is contagious;

32. “You always find a way to make me feel better.”

When to say it:

After she comforts you during hard times;
When she gives you an advice;
When she shows you a different perspective on a problem you’re facing;

33. “I knew you were a special one.”

When to say it:

You’re talking about the early days of your relationship;
During deep conversations about what attracted you to each other;
When she does something that reassures you, she is the one;

-> Related Read: 10 Signs She Is The One For You

34. “Let’s dream together about something.”

When to say it:

During quiet times together;
When you want to spark a new conversational topic you never had before;
After a significant event such as promotion, moving in together;
When you are about to start a new chapter in life together;

-> Related Read: 50 What-If Questions For Couples

35. “Tell me something I don’t know about you.”

When to say it:

You wish to get to know her better;
You want to start an interesting new topic;
You can’t think of any topic but want to chat with her;

BONUS: Super cute messages for her

Below are ten super cute and romantic text messages that will earn you extra points with your woman. And yes, these are all things women like to hear (or read, in this situation)

“My day got better now that I saw you/talked to you.”
“Missed you the second you left.”
“You are my favorite reason to lose sleep.”
“You give the best virtual hugs.”
“Got your favorite song on repeat, that’s how much I miss you.”
“Guess what? You’re on my mind … again!”
“Here’s a song that reminds me of you.”
“I can’t wait to wrap my hands around you later.”
“You are my favorite topic of conversation.”
“Your order of a “cuddle and a bear hug” is on its way!”

Rachel

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