How To Make Your Boyfriend Obsessed With You

Making a man notice you and ask you out on a date is the easiest thing. Getting him to date you regularly is tricky but achievable. Making him completely obsessed with you is the challenging part where most women fail.

Luckily for you, there are more than a few ways to be sure your boyfriend is madly in love with you and cannot imagine his life without you.

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1. Aim to be equal partners 

The best relationships are always made of two partners who are, at most parts, equal to each other. This doesn’t mean that partners should be equally strong or smart, but rather take on the challenges of life in equal measure.

If your man can feel your support in difficult times and you aren’t afraid to take on responsibilities without being asked, then he is most likely always going to want to keep you around him.

I mean, how great does it feel to be able to count on the other person and not feel like you are taking on the majority of hardship and responsibilities alone? Being able to share difficulties and help each other navigate through life truly makes for some of the strongest bonds between human beings. 

2. Demonstrate your independence 

No one likes obsessive partners – especially men. If you want to keep the flame between you alive, you shouldn’t be afraid to go and do your thing outside the relationship.

This may mean you go on girls’ night or practice your favorite hobby alone. Whatever your way of unwinding is, keep in mind you don’t always have to have your partner around to have a good time.

You want to learn how to spend time apart from each other to reinforce your sense of self and not allow your relationship to consume you. Your partner will definitely appreciate that because this means that he can also go and do his own thing.

And the best part? You can later tell each other about all the interesting and exciting things that happened to you both, which further helps strengthen your love. 

3. Become his secret obsession

Unless you’ve really neglected your love life, you have probably heard that there is a secret way to become a man’s obsession. It is by triggering his hero instinct. Every man has it, or there wouldn’t be so many movies where the guy saves the country, the woman, the world, and so on. Men are absolutely obsessed with the idea of becoming someone’s hero…mainly, his woman’s hero.

Once you learn how to trigger his hero instinct, you will be completely shocked by the attention he gives you, the way he looks at you, and the devotion he has for you. In fact, I advise you never to approach a man and trigger his hero instinct unless you are truly in love with him and want him to be with you for life.

Hold on! That doesn’t mean you should call him to come and save you from something. That’s not how this works.

In fact, to know the exact technique of triggering your boyfriend’s hero instinct, you need to see this juicy and super informative video here. (link opens on a separate page).

4. Show him how you feel 

“I’m fine!”, “It’s nothing!”, “Everything’s okay!” Sounds familiar? Most women often mutter those phrases when they, in fact, are very far from being okay and fine.

Men aren’t stupid – they can sense that something is wrong with you when you aren’t feeling yourself. So why lie about it?

Maybe you are afraid of being vulnerable in front of him but keep in mind that showing your vulnerability is often the key to his heart.

At the end of the day, we are all only human and want to help our loved ones navigate through the difficult times they experience. When you deprive your partner of that opportunity, he might grow to be confused and resentful, thinking you don’t trust him enough.

So show your feelings, whatever they might be, and allow your man to help you out. This will stroke his male ego and make him feel much better about the relationship you share. 

5. Spend time with his friends

There is hardly anyone on planet Earth who doesn’t enjoy it when their partner gets along with their friend group. If you make an effort to become “one of the boys”, you will likely gain a lot of positive feedback from your man.

Women are notorious for scrunching their noses when they get an invite to hang out with the boys, but I urge you not to go down this road. Of course, you won’t be going out with them every week but getting to know the closest people to your man’s heart is the way to go if you want him to become obsessed with you quickly. 

6. Schedule regular quality time

In today’s busy lifestyle that most people have, it’s easy to think that just because you live together, dine together and sleep in the same bed; you are spending quality time with each other.

If you are like me (and possibly the majority of people reading this blog post), your energy levels aren’t that high during the week. You want to relax instead of participating in lengthy conversations, and if you are an introvert, you prefer to spend some time alone, unwinding, rather than catch a movie with your partner, for example.

However, quality time is an essential part of any good relationship, and as such, you need to make sure that you don’t overlook it. Schedule regular date nights with your man and prepare for those accordingly. That means cleaning up your calendar from any other responsibilities you might have and putting your phone on silent mode. Your undivided attention will definitely make an impression on him.

7. Respect his opinions 

Men, unlike women, don’t always need to be right – they just want to be heard. All jokes aside, if you respect your man’s opinions, he will likely never want to let you go.

It’s no secret that great relationships are built on respect and compromise, which is why you need to make an effort to show both of these on a daily basis. Respecting someone, even if you disagree with them, is an art form worth mastering. It will save you a lot of pointless arguments in the long run and make the other person feel cherished and appreciated. 

8. Celebrate his victories

In a relationship, you need to be your partner’s biggest fan. You should celebrate even the small wins and take note of anything that makes them feel proud and accomplished.

This behavior can be a huge ego boost for them and can help them find even more confidence along the way. If you actively celebrate your man’s victories, he won’t even let you go, having found someone who cheers him on when the road gets hard and heavy.

Of course, life is anything but smooth sailing, which is why you need to be prepared to lift him when he experiences disappointment or can’t make sense of his path anymore. It’s important to make your man feel appreciated for everything he is – good and bad alike, to reassure him he is in a safe space with you where he can simply be himself. 

9. It’s the little things that matter

Most men I know don’t fish for compliments or actively wait to be thanked when they do something good for their spouse. However, even if that really is so, it still wouldn’t hurt to acknowledge their efforts accordingly.

For example, if your man bought a pair of nice pants or a T-shirt that looks amazing on him, has a new haircut, or something else that makes him feel good – acknowledge that. Tell him how good he looks and make him feel beautiful. Everyone likes that – men and women alike.

Just imagine how good you feel when your man gives you a heartfelt compliment. Why shouldn’t he get to feel the same way?

The same goes for little things that he does on your behalf, like chores or appointments. Always say thank you and try your best to return the favor so he can also feel that he has a supportive partner to watch his back. I can almost guarantee that he will never want to let you go if you do that. 

10. Take care of yourself 

It’s very important to keep your grooming levels up even after you have secured your match successfully. I know it may seem tempting to neglect yourself and not put too much effort into the way you look, but this point is still important if you want to keep your man obsessed with you.

Now, I am not talking about putting on a full face of makeup every morning or spending money on expensive and complicated procedures to keep you looking young forever.

What I mean is that you should try to keep up your feminine appearance, take regular showers, and groom yourself. I know you probably are well aware of this point already, and you likely abide by it. However, I still decided to point it out since it’s crucial.