15 Signs He Wants To End The Relationship But Doesn’t Know How

When do you know a relationship is over? When one of the partners ends it… Not really!

The breakup is just the actual physical separation between two partners, and it comes only after one (or both) partner has already given up on the relationship.

There are so many other things that happen before the end, and if you are careful enough, you might see the signs of an upcoming breakup.

So, if you are looking for confirmation of your fears, I hope you don’t find it here. Because today I will show you 15 things that will happen when your man decides to give up on his relationship with you.

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Signs He Wants To End The Relationship

1. You aren’t his priority anymore

If your guy never seems to find the time or the desire to spend time with you, then you know that something is very, very wrong with your relationship.

It might start small, so you don’t really notice it at first, however as time goes by, his excuses seem to come at you like an avalanche.

From being busy with work to catching up with friends, all the way to spending some time with his mom, you never seem to fit in his schedule anymore. Well, that happens because he doesn’t see any future with you anymore, so his focus shifts towards anything else he plans on keeping in his life. No, he is not invested in your relationship.

2. He is hiding his phone from you 

Hey, I am all about that personal space, but if he is deliberately hiding his phone so you don’t see who’s in his DMs, there might be something less innocent going on.

This situation could be even worse if there were once a time when you had all his passwords and you checking his phone wasn’t an issue. If your gut feeling is telling you that he is up to no good, you are probably right. 

3. He criticizes you for everything

Lately, it feels like you can’t do anything right – if his words are to be trusted.

He rolls his eyes at the way you dress, scoffs at the dinner you have cooked, and never seems happy about anything you do.

Long gone is the phase of romantic compliments, as it has given way to his constant pickiness. Perhaps he is just waiting for you to get sick of him, so you are the one to pull the plug on the relationship. This one is a serious sign that he wants to break up but doesn’t know how to.

4. He flirts with your friends

Friendly banter and innocent flirtation with your friends are okay if it’s done in a funny, friendly manner. However, some serious flirty attitude, which aims to achieve much more than just “being friends,” is not.

He might even go as far as to put on the moves on your friends, demonstrating even further how little he cares about you.

Of course, if your friend is a good friend, she would never fall for this trick, but it doesn’t make the situation any less awkward, unfortunately. If that happens, you can be sure this guy isn’t in a relationship with you anymore. Why not make it official?

5. He mocks you in front of your friends

Hey, every relationship has its cheeky, teasing banter, and I am all about it.

What I am not about is when one of the parties is visibly uncomfortable with the remarks it gets, and what’s worse – this whole event takes place in front of said party’s friends.

If your boyfriend is being unnaturally mean and disrespectful, this could be a sign that you need to call things off. And if he thinks that his behavior makes him appear more of a macho, then you probably deserve someone better anyway. 

6. He isn’t interested in your shared future

It seems like only yesterday you two were discussing moving in together, wedding venues, and how many babies you wanted to have.

Over time, however, his excitement seems to have faded away and instead has made way to a cynical and ruthless facade.

If he reacts coldly to the idea of your shared future or refrains from making plans together with you, this might be your cue to leave. If you aren’t willing to do that but still wish to fight for him, here’s a quick video with three important tips for you.

7. He doesn’t want to get physical 

If he doesn’t seem eager to go under the sheets with you anymore, you can take that as a sign that he is either terribly depressed or he has lost all interest in your relationship.

Of course, it’s normal that after spending years together, the spark could have gotten a bit dimmed down along the way. Even so, if he isn’t expressing any interest in getting close, that’s an obvious sign about his attitude about your relationship. He wants to end it because something more interesting is available around.

8. He snaps back about everything

Lately, your man seems to snap at even the most simple questions you shoot his way, such as “Did you see what the weather is going to be like tomorrow?”.

If he seems to have developed the extraordinary ability to find a way to attack you over the most mundane questions, I have some bad news for you. If his fuse seems shorter than ever, and he constantly looks for a reason to argue and fight with you, perhaps it’s time to call it quits. 

9. He is hanging out with his friends 24/7

It’s normal for your boyfriend to hang out with the bros on Friday evenings and indulge in manly banter about work, sports, and other life mysteries.

However, when the guys’ night becomes a part of his daily routine, the red siren should start ringing in your head. While spending time with the dudes is healthy, your relationship shouldn’t suffer over that. There has to be a balance, which he is clearly missing – it almost looks as if he finds their company more pleasant than yours… 

10. He forgets special occasions

Even though you have reminded him a gazillion times, he still forgot your special night. And don’t even get me started on anniversaries and birthdays.

Lately, he doesn’t seem to care about any special milestones or achievements either – he just prefers to do his own thing, which ideally doesn’t include you.

To you, it may look like he doesn’t care about things that used to matter to both of you, and maybe that is exactly the case. However, reality check says that he doesn’t care about you.

11. He is rarely home

If he stays late at work, constantly seems to have something else to attend to, or just avoids being home when you are on the premises, this should tell you a thing or two about where your relationship is headed.

Even if he is experiencing a rough patch, he would be willing to find a balance or compromise if he truly cared about you. If he isn’t, well… I have bad news for you. He wants to end the relationship.

12. He seems out of it 

Do you feel like your boyfriend is in a state of being constantly zoned out? Like your relationship has shifted from the time he found everything you said delightful and amusing to a time of perpetual dullness?

Maybe you can even sense that he struggles to stay focused on conversations with you and has that feeling on his face that begs you to stop talking. If he’s too bored to even pay attention to you, it’s a sure sign that he desperately wants out of your relationship. 

13. He doesn’t take you on dates 

Has date night simply disappeared from your weekly calendar lately? If your man doesn’t seem interested in taking you out once Saturday rolls around, that’s a sure sign something is very wrong.

Of course, he could be simply exhausted from his past week, which is why he isn’t much into having a date night this particular week. But when you notice that his behavior has been consistent for the past couple of months, you might suspect he’s not too much into your relationship either. 

14. He doesn’t share anymore

If he doesn’t let himself be vulnerable in front of you anymore or refuses to share details from his day, this can be a sign that the spark of the relationship has died within him. Our partners should be our rocks and the people we can say anything to. This sincerity and willingness to share should come naturally from within – if it doesn’t, then something is wrong. 

15. He doesn’t take care of his personal hygiene 

Do you remember the time when you first started dating when he looked slick and sharp?

If you don’t and instead you have settled for his less than the delightful aroma and questionable grooming practices, you are in trouble.

When a man loves a woman, he would at least try to look presentable in her eyes, so she likes him. And while it’s good to feel at ease to a certain extent when around your partner, being too comfortable is a thing – a worrisome thing at that. 

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