You broke up a while ago, but something tells you he isn’t over you yet.
How to tell if your ex-boyfriend wants you back into his life? How to know it isn’t just your imagination, and he is slowly finding his way back to you.
You might be over him, or you might be scared that if you let your hopes up, you will end up brokenhearted again.
It doesn’t matter the reason, and you must know if he truly is trying to get back to you. Today, I give you 17 signs your ex wants you back, and you will most likely have “a talk” soon.
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Signs Your Ex-Boyfriend Wants You Back
1. He was quick to move on
You two have been professing your love and devotion to one another just two weeks ago and now suddenly he is posting photos on Facebook with his new boo. Doesn’t that seem a bit off? If it does, it’s because breakups are painful, and it’s normal to let yourself hurt for a while. If he is pretending to get over you so quickly, it might be because you are still on his mind and he struggles to cope.
I know this sounds complicated, but just give him a few weeks. Men are known for getting “hit” by their real feelings with a delay.
2. He keeps texting and calling you
You might find that not even three days have passed since you two broke up and now he is trying to act casual by dropping texts or trying to call you.
Even though he might brush it off as “habit” or “trying to keep your friendship”, the truth is a bit more different than that. He simply misses you and misses that cute relationship routine you had.
Now, keep in mind that this is going to affect the way you process your emotions, so you should decide if you’re okay with his attention.
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3. He randomly bumps into you
“How did you end up here!” Oh, come on, like you didn’t know, I work two blocks down the street! You might notice that you somehow end up seeing him even more frequently than when you two were actually dating. This is because your ex is aware of your daily routine and has no problems creating these “accidents”. Trust me; it’s no coincidence, your ex wants you back into his life.
4. He posts dramatic things on social media
And don’t we all when our hearts are broken?
Sure, some of us are more subtle than others, but posting sad songs, stories, and posts on social media are just screaming “PLEASE! PAY ATTENTION TO ME!”.
Whatever you feel – be it sadness, pity, or anger, you should know that if your ex is openly sharing their hurt with the world, it’s because they really want to be back together with you.
5. His friends check up on you
It’s only normal that the two of you share friends but never think for a moment that his friends are sided with you and not him.
If you find that suddenly they are very concerned about your wellbeing or are trying to deepen their connection with you, it just might be that they are spying for your ex and reporting back to him.
Moreover, this could happen with his family as well. His sister asks you out for a coffee, and his mom still sends you good morning messages? Yep, that’s because they know he is dreaming of having you again by his side.
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6. He keeps talking to your friends and family
Even if you’ve been together for ages, there is something wrong with staying in touch with each other’s social circles after breaking up.
Even if your ex and your dad were best buds, any future interactions are bound to be plain awkward. This is just a strategy to ensure that they still have ties to your life.
7. He “drunk dials” you
Ah, the infamous drunk dial.
If he is thinking about you when he is drunk, he definitely didn’t get over your relationship. What’s so perfect about this “tactic” is that you can easily brush it off in the morning by saying – “Hey, I was drunk, I didn’t mean to do that!”. Except that you totally did.
Everyone knows that people tend to be more sincere when drunk, hence his sudden urge to profess his undying love to you.
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8. He starts living your dreams
He knows that your lifelong dream is to go to Japan. Next thing you know – he is posting photos to his Instagram with Mount Fuji in the background.
When you two were together he never expressed any interest in Japan but now he seems consumed by the culture. Consequence? I think not. Simply a desperate cry for attention and a reaction from you.
9. He is jealous
If your ex is over you, he will not get jealous if he sees you with a new man. Sure, it will sting him a little but not so much to let it show.
If your ex-boyfriend hasn’t moved on, however, you will probably see some outbursts of jealousy, since he naturally isn’t very keen on seeing you with someone else.
10. He wants to “be friends”
Trying to be friends with your ex is one of the surest ways for you two to get back together.
There is nothing wrong with trying, don’t get me wrong, but you should really wonder – does your ex really want to be just friends, or do his aspirations lie elsewhere? Chances are, it’s the latter. It’s much easier to re-establish a relationship when you are still in each other’s lives.
11. He likes reminiscing about the past
Another obvious sign that your ex isn’t over you is if he has no trouble going down memory lane and reminding you of the good times you spent together.
He might not even do it on purpose – he subconsciously wants you to remember the feelings you experienced back then, hoping they will reignite something in you. It’s also a method of taking your guard down so you’d be more vulnerable to consider getting back together.
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12. He keeps bringing up your breakup
Most of us need closure after our breakups – this is perfectly normal. However, if your ex wants to dissect the breakup and everything that lead up to it, chances are he regrets it and wants to learn from his mistakes. Why? So he has a chance to redeem himself and get back together with you.
13. He wants to hang out with you
Hey, I am not against exes being friends with each other. However, some time needs to pass between the breakup and starting to hang out again, just so you both are sure where you stand. If he is impatient and can’t wait for this time to pass, he probably misses you and can’t bear to be apart from you.
14. He is making a visible effort to change
This is a big one and one of the most meaningful signs your ex wants you back.
If you two talked prior to the breakup and you clarified what bothered you in the relationship, he knows what needs to change. And if he is making the effort to learn from his mistakes and better himself, he might want to show you that he is worth your time and is willing to put in the time and energy to work on his flaws.
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15. He doesn’t want to return your things
Another old trick in the book is when you ask for your stuff back but he refuses to return it. Instead, he asks you to come over and pick it up. As if you’d fall for that! It’s more than obvious that his aim is to get you close and near, so he can have a better chance of winning you back.
16. He drops hints that he is still single
If your ex casually mentions more than once that his relationship status hasn’t changed since you two broke up, this could be a clue that he still has some hope that you two can get back together. He could also be scouting if you have a special someone already, but the more likely scenario is a mix of both.
17. He flirts with you
If your ex has no trouble flirting with you even after you broke up, that’s a sure sign he still has the hots for you. No matter how quirky and charming his compliments are, nothing can hide his true feelings toward you. Think about it – is this his usual demeanor, or has he become flirty out of nowhere?
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