Is he just a hook-up or something more serious? Well, you really want it to be something more than a one-night thing, but it looks like your new crush is hesitating to take things further than the bedroom.
Is this you?
A cute guy is making his way into your life. He is charming, attractive and you get that crazy-wild-promising vibe that you’d look great together.
However, he’s been weird, and you can’t really pinpoint why you feel that way. So you wonder… is he just trying to sleep with you? Do you have any future together?
How do you tell if a guy is just trying to sleep with you? I’ve got 25 signs he just wants to hook up and won’t be a long-term boyfriend to you.
However, I will also give you the recipe to quickly change his mind (probably before the day ends) and make him obsessed with you.
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25 Signs You Are Just a Hook-Up In His Eyes
1. He doesn’t want you to meet his friends and family
And every time you bring this up, he conveniently changes the subject. The reason he doesn’t want to introduce you to his loved ones? He doesn’t take you seriously enough. Sorry, but someone had to say it.
2. He doesn’t post anything on social media with you
You’ve never seen him make an Instagram story or check in on Facebook when you two are together. On one hand, sure, most men aren’t the most active creatures on social media. But on the other, you see him post regularly when he hangs out with anyone else but you.
3. He doesn’t initiate conversations
You’re always the first to text – or call. He comes across as someone who doesn’t like to do a lot of talking, to begin with, but again, you can see him in a different light when he is in a different company. He seems awfully chatty with his friends, but when he’s alone with you, it’s like a cat caught his tongue.
4. He doesn’t ask about your day
He doesn’t even ask common courtesy questions, not ever. You might ask if he had a good work week or what his plans for the weekend are, but he never bothers to ask you back. You get the feeling that he doesn’t really care – and that is probably right because he is just trying to sleep with you.
5. He only seems to notice how you look
All his compliments revolve around your looks. Be it your hair, your clothes, or how you did your makeup; he can’t take his eyes off you. In any other scenario, that would be a good thing and can even give you butterflies, but in his case, he doesn’t seem to notice anything else about you.
6. He is more interested in you in the evening
You haven’t heard anything from him all day long, and suddenly he pops up just as you are about to go to bed, late in the night. Coincidence? Most definitely not. Notice how he drives the conversation toward you two meeting in the dead of night.
7. You never see him in daytime
Like a real-life Edward Cullen, your knight is nowhere to be seen when the sun is shining outside. He never suggests you two hang out in the daytime and instead prefers more nocturnal activities.
8. He keeps you on “seen” for hours
For the most part, this is okay – we all have lives, and our schedules can get rather hectic. However, how hard could it be to respond to a simple yes or no question? Especially when you can see that his status is set on active on whatever messaging app you’re using.
9. He openly checks out other people
How do you know if he is just trying to sleep with you? If he doesn’t bother to check other people out discreetly, he probably isn’t with you out of loyalty and sincere connection. And even if you voiced that this behavior makes you feel uncomfortable, he doesn’t seem like he will change it.
10. Your conversations are shallow
You two never seem able to get into deep and meaningful topics. You might have tried, but he won’t budge and instead insists on talking about everyday topics such as the weather or the last episode of The Squid Game.
11. You never talk about the future
Your conversations always come across as very present-based. He doesn’t know about your future aspirations, and you have no idea about his. Somehow the conversation never goes in that direction, no matter how much you try to steer it in that way.
12. He is reluctant for you to spend the night
Because he always has “important things to do”. At 6 am. Right. It’s okay if this happens once or twice, but every time? Come on! The only reason he wants you to leave asap is that he is scared that someone he knows might see you coming out of his house. That happens only if he is just trying to sleep with you.
13. You always end up sleeping together when you meet
No matter how your “date” was planned out, it always ends at his place with both of you in bed. You never do lunch or a walk in the park (see point number 7 for a refresher). If you’re fortunate, sometimes you can end up watching a movie together before taking your clothes off.
14. He’s not “looking for a serious relationship”
Whenever you try to bring up your feelings or ask him where he sees your relationship in the future, he is always quick to give you a vague and ambiguous answer. This is a delicate topic for him, as he doesn’t want to lose you, but he still has to keep you at arm’s length.
15. He disappears when you’re on your period
When it’s that time of the month, he vanishes in thin air. Probably because he knows you can’t really fool around even if you do meet up. That should be more than enough for you to deduct his true intentions.
16. He looks uncomfortable when you’re in public together
Is he looking around non-stop when you two are together in public? Is he paranoid that you two might encounter someone he knows? He might be acting that way because he simply doesn’t want to be seen with you. Take your hint, girl!
17. If you refuse to sleep with him, he can get angry
When you’ve been seeing someone for a while, it’s not hard for them to understand that you aren’t always “in the mood”. However, when you turn down this guy, he can get very irritated and even claim that you ruined the evening. This is one of the surest signs he just wants to sleep with you.
18. You don’t feel connected with him
You two don’t seem to really click or share a genuine connection in any way. If anything, he makes you feel confused and lonely, maybe even questioning why you are still with him in the first place. A man who truly loves you would never put you in that situation.
19. You met on a dating app
Hey, I am not one to bash dating apps – I met my boyfriend of 1.5 years on one. However, dating apps are notorious for some very valid characteristics for a reason. So if you met your beau on Bumble or Tinder, keep in mind that his intentions can be less than pure compared to yours.
20. He doesn’t spoil you
Or, in other words – he doesn’t want to spend any of his money on you. I know, I know, we live in a very gender-balanced society where the age of gentlemen is slowly dawning on us, but if he cared about you, he wouldn’t mind paying for the check every now and again.
21. He keeps bringing up his looks
Since he is trying to get you in bed every single time he meets up with you, it’s only natural that his six-pack or biceps are one of the major conversation topics. Even if you don’t seem that interested in that, he doesn’t seem to take the hint and cut it out.
22. You always meet at his place
Because he couldn’t even be bothered to commute to yours and then leave after you’ve had your fun, this guy is selfish and doesn’t even take a moment to consider your comfort – ever. Well, as you guessed it, that’s because all he cares about is to just sleep with you.
23. He always has condoms
He comes prepared for a reason, as he has very clear intentions about where he wants the night to lead. And since he is likely adventurous, he is ready to go anywhere – be it a public restroom, an elevator, or wherever that isn’t a bedroom. I mean, you never know where inspiration might strike!
24. He turns any conversation dirty
Even the most innocent conversation can sound wrong when it’s coming out of his mouth. Actually, most of your conversations seem to revolve around one thing and one thing only – I bet you know what I am talking about.
25. You don’t know anything about him
He never shares anything personal about himself. You don’t know anything about his friends and family, about the company he works at, or any childhood stories about him. Even if you tried to ask him, he likely said he’s not that interesting and reverted the spotlight back to you somehow.
What To Do If He Just Wants To Sleep With You
First of all, it all depends on you! Are you okay with that type of relationship? Many women are fine having a “friends with benefits” style of friendship with someone around them. And if it suits you, I don’t see a reason for you to change it. It has its perks, and it gives you time to focus on yourself while still sweating it off every now and then.
However, if you feel like you two could be a great couple together and genuinely wish for him to see a future with you, then you might want to know exactly what attracts men to you? And once you know all that, how do you make that man flip from “a hook-up interested” to “I need to see you now!” interested.
It is all about the way you make a man see himself. If a man likes himself when he is with you, he will automatically want to see more of you… because he is satisfied with the type of person, you make him feel.
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25 Ways You Know He Is Just Trying To Sleep With You
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