How often have you wondered if you are allowed to ask and say whatever you please in front of your boyfriend? While being honest and open with him is a huge plus and a brilliant relationship habit, there are some things you should never say to a man.
Maintaining a healthy romantic relationship isn’t always as easy as they show in the movies.
Too often, you might find yourself saying something you regret later. What are the rules? What is it that you are allowed to talk about, and what are the big no-nos?
There are many hurtful things you want to avoid telling your man (like how many boyfriends you’ve had before him), and there are also ridiculous things he doesn’t need to know about you. See below the top 10 things to avoid saying to your man.
10 Things You Should Never Say To A Man
1. “You remind me of my ex.”
It goes without saying that this is a major no-no.
Your ex shouldn’t even come up in your conversations unless it’s to share your dating history as a means to get closer to your current partner.
Nobody likes to be compared to other people, and this is especially true for men. If you compare your new beau with your old one, this might give him the signal that he needs to compete and demonstrate to you that he is a better man than the one you broke things off with.
This will likely make him annoyed and left with the feeling that there is still something unsettled between you two. Hating on your ex in front of your new man is no good either – he will easily be left with the impression that you are still not over the previous guy, which will irritate him.
Are you ready to see what the one thing he actually want from you is?
2. “I’m fine.”
Oh yeah, you probably know about that one, right?
It is one of the most overused phrases in the female dictionary, and it’s also among the ones men hate the most. Gone are the days when guys had no clue if you were actually “fine”. Social media helped them understand that nothing is okay when their woman uses the “fine” word, and a storm is approaching, especially when it’s pretty apparent that you are not fine.
Men aren’t idiots, and even though they lack the heightened perception we women are gifted with, they can still sense when something is bothering you.
Don’t start playing the old “It’s nothing, everything’s okay” game with them because it’s very likely that he can see right through it. At some point, annoyed by your lack of communication, he will give up, and you will get even more upset. However, if you tell him the problem, he will put on his problem-solving hat and help you out.
3. “I look fat.”
No one is attracted to the lack of self-confidence.
While it might be true that the majority of women struggle with coming to terms with their appearance, you should abstain from pointing out these perceived flaws to your partner.
Don’t forget that he wouldn’t be with you if he thought you were unattractive, so when you continuously bash yourself in front of him, this will likely annoy him.
After all, he chose you for a reason, so are you questioning his decision by being unkind to your body?
You can bring up your imperfections in a subtle way, and you can talk them over with him, so he can give you the words of affirmation you need to boost your self-confidence. However, don’t go overboard and despair every couple of days.
4. “Man up”
Today’s men are having a hard time being sensitive and showing their emotions. In a society that constantly tells them they need to be strong and manly, they don’t need you to enforce this further.
When you tell your partner to “Man up”, he may feel like you are questioning his masculinity and will feel the need to overcompensate, which will stress him out.
Maybe you don’t say this with any ill intent and instead aim to determine him and build his confidence, but it’s unlikely he will take it that way.
Instead, try to support him in his weak moments and show him that it’s okay if he feels insecure or has the need to cry. If you provide him with the comfort and reassurance he needs, your relationship will only grow stronger.
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5 .“I think you are balding.”
Men can be especially sensitive about their hairline – which is why you should never bring it up in a conversation. It might be obvious to you (and him), but talking about it will make him feel the same way as if he told you you’re getting curvy. You wouldn’t want your partner to make such comments to you, too, right?
Be sensitive to his worries and gently avoid the topic, even if he is starting to lose his hair. Because if that’s the case, then trust me – he is aware of it, so no need to point it out.
6. “Your mom is getting on my nerves.”
The relationship shared between a man with his mother is a profound one. This is why talking about her in front of him can be a very delicate subject.
No matter how long you two have been together, making negative comments about his mother or asking him to choose between the two of you is a biiiig no. Even if she is unbearable and can drive you nuts, she is still his mother and is one of the most influential people in his life.
Venting about her in front of him can put him on the spot and make him feel wildly uncomfortable. Instead of putting him in this position, avoid interacting with his mom to the best of your abilities.
7. “I taught you well.”
Your man has his individual preferences and unique personality.
He can react very sharply if you try to control him or reshape him into a version of him you like better. This is very likely to make him feel suffocated in the relationship, and no one ever wants to be put in that position.
Don’t strip him of his individuality and demean him by making comments that you groomed him into being a better person. This may even lead to him questioning if you like him for the person who is or for the version you are trying to make him into.
If you want your relationship to succeed, let him have personal autonomy and avoid saying things that trample his uniqueness.
8. “Your best friend looks hot.”
Even if your man’s best friend is a supermodel, you should never point this out to your partner. Trust me; he wouldn’t appreciate that you’ve been eyeing his friends. If you make such comments, this can make him wonder if you don’t appreciate his friend a little bit too much than what he would like.
Men can be sensitive, too, so you don’t want him left with doubting if he is attractive enough for you. If his bestie is smoking hot, you can share this revelation with your girlfriends but avoid talking about it with your man. Consider this as one of the hurtful things to never say to a man.
9. “Look at what X’s boyfriend did for her! I wish you would do the same…”
If you expect a fairytale relationship, you are set for disappointment.
Real people aren’t perfect and at the very least show their affection in various ways. Just because your boyfriend doesn’t frequently give you flowers or small gifts doesn’t mean that he doesn’t care about you.
One of the worst things you can do is start comparing him to real-life examples of your friend’s relationships. Remember that things often look good on the surface, and just because you have noticed this small act that made an impression on you doesn’t mean that your friend’s relationship is smooth sailing.
If gift-giving and small tokens of affection are that important to you – talk to your man and tell him. I assure you he will react much better instead of when you compare him to other men.
10. “Was your ex prettier than me?”
What do you expect him to say? Why are you even bringing his ex in the conversation?
A small amount of curiosity is healthy, but you need to know when to stop before getting on his toes. Don’t put him on the spot like that – accept that he wouldn’t be dating you if you weren’t beautiful, and that’s that—no need to know how you compare to his ex-girlfriend.
Are you ready to see what the one thing he actually want from you is?
Conclusion to Things You Should Never Say To A Man
Now you have all ten hurtful or ridiculous subjects never to touch when talking to your boyfriend. Did I miss anything? could you suggest some other things a woman should never tell her boyfriend?
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